Re: Doctors (or not): Biologically why do we feel this pain after the split? myowncanoe: Bumping for your consideration...
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Re: Doctors (or not): Biologically why do we feel this pain after the split? Lumpy: Dear Mophead,
Not a doctor (although I do play one on T.V.) but I gotta say that I firmly believe that your mental state and physical well-being are joined at the hip...Emotional /mental depression can lead to lack of sleep/appetite which will in turn lower your immune system making you more suseptible to viruses, illness, etc. Which in turn makes it harder for you to come out of your depression, etc, etc...It's a viscious cycle...
Re: Doctors (or not): Biologically why do we feel this pain after the split? mydarkdreams: The stages of grief.
I actually did a paper on this for a psychology class in college.. which was somewhat odd - I had a live in boyfriend of two years at the time I submitted my proposal for my paper - which was accepted. By the time the paper was to begin about 3 weeks later, we had split up and he had moved back to washington. I tried to get my teacher to allow me to change my topic, she refused and said it would probably be a good learning experience. We also had to present our paper/findings to the class in oral format.. this was very very difficult - but I do believe I learned a lot, even if it was much closer to home than I had realized it would be.
Grief over a relationship ending seems to me almost to be more complicated than grief over the passing of a loved one. There seems to be so many more variables that get in the way. The death of a loved one is tragic and filled with so much mourning, but really - what can you do? When it's a relationship ending, you can try and bargain to change, the variables open you up to hurting even more - the first time you find out your ex is seeing someone else, etc. In my opinion it's very similar, the mourning/grieving process to dealing with the processes that come with the death of a relationship.
Five Stages Of Grief
1. Denial and Isolation.
2. Anger.
3. Bargaining.
4. Depression.
5. Acceptance
You'll bounce through them all time and again, and they don't all go as laid out. Many times you'll move from anger to acceptance back to bargaining again. Not a fun process.. I'm with you. I'd love nothing more than to find the off switch and turn it *OFF*
Re: Doctors (or not): Biologically why do we feel this pain after the split? GretaB: Actually, there is a biological reason - I read an article on it (and please bear with me, while I try to explain it).....
For primitive man, it was essential to live in tribes. No man could survive alone - it was sure death. Tribes cared for each other, supported each other, and protected each other. It was an essential bond - very literally, a matter of life and death.
If a man found himself seperated from the tribe, it was essential to re-unite. The anxiety/sleeplessness/inability to eat, etc., would be a form of adrenaline - allowing the man to expend every ounce of energy in finding his tribe.
So, in essence - primitive men who didn't have the adrenaline to focus on finding the tribe, had a higher chance of dying. Those with the highest adrenaline had a better chance of finding the tribe, and living - thus passing the trait thru the generations. Survival of the fittest, and all that.
Does that make sense?
Re: Doctors (or not): Biologically why do we feel this pain after the split? mophead123: Greta-
That does make some sense. Thanks for the thoughts and ideas. I guess for me, it really helps tounderstand why my body is doing this to me in order to possibly gain full control of my body and mind on my own...
I just wonder...shouldnt thebody have a limiting factor as well as in where the body gives up or there is a threshold...something along the lines of like i said, a numbing or your body going into shock...maybe thats a nervous breakdown...anyway...good to hear from you!
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