What would you Do? ConfusedOOC: .
Re: What would you Do? pluscachange: I think you know the answer to this Confused, or rather, you know what answer you want.
The kids, would they gain by being in a household without trust and with constant tension?
Me, I couldn't do it. Somebody that can look me in the eye and lie like that, no way, no how. But that's just me.
Re: What would you Do? Repentant: [quote author=ConfusedOOC link=topic=14536.msg121582#msg121582 date=1120743230">
Hello All,
She has lied to me constantly for 9 months about EVERYTHING. Look me right in the eye and lie.
I still have feelings for my wife, but the pain she caused me is unbearable.
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Wow.
How things turn around.
Well, firstly, I'd be taking it really slowly. Secondly, she needs to get help for her dishonesty.
You still love her? If she proves herself and she seems to you to have changed, I'd be looking at it for sure. Marriage counseling round 2 anyone?
But it will take time to re-establish the relationship for sure.
Re: What would you Do? lookin4alite: OOC,
I would die to think that my marriage could have been reconciled. I just knew that the betrayal was too deep and my wife had very little regret/remorse. She continued down the broken path and now 2 years later she is a friend at best and co-parent. I think it can work out but you need her to understand she has to have a distance. I would not allow her in the house. She should have to live alone for 6months and you can visit her and her visit you and your daughter. But I would not allow her 100% back in your life. If she can show you that in the 6 months she can be exclusive to you, that her word is sound and true and that she is reliable and accountable then I would say the marriage can be reconciled. I suggest 6 months so she can show her true self. If it is lie and deceit it will be a matter of time, or she may be rehabilitated.
Protect your self emotionally and financially.
Take Care,
Lite
Re: What would you Do? mine: trust and lies
are the hardest thing to over come
but do you still love your wife...
do you want to try again
could you live with the lie you tell yourself
if you just walk away
