Highlighting being alone AloneandCold: I left my ex over a year ago and we have been officially divorced since March. He moved out but a couple months ago I was having a hard time making the bills so he moved into my living room. This month we moved into a three bedroom house as roommates. Anyone to the point; My ex has a steady girlfriend, this is actually the second one since we split. I have yet to date, I went on one sort of date from the internet but he turned out as just a friend. Right, well my ex was having some issues with his GF and was going to break up with her so I sat down and talked to him about it and encouraged him to talk to her about it. I am constantly trying to help him out in his relationship since he did so many stupid things in ours. Now he is an idiot and really likes this girl but is always trying to get me to sleep with him. My main reason for trying to help him so much with his relationship is mostly selfish because he is a huge perv and when he has a GF he bugs me a whole heck of a lot less then when he doesn't. Anyway the problem is every-time I help him or he talks to me about them it just highlights how much I am alone. Every day I get reminders that the man who lied to me and did so many things to hurt me gets at least a chance to be happy, while I (while not blameless) only did one thing to him and that was to leave, gets to be alone for what looks like forever. People tell me that I will find someone, but really a year later the only things different is the house I live in. The issue is I feel very sad and very alone every day. Him talking to his girlfriend and going over to her house at nights while I sit here and wonder if I have seen this episode of Law and Order SVU just contrasts my life too much. So I guess this is kind of a ramble and just my way of saying I feel sucker punched lately. Not sure why I wanted to share, but I did.
Bug
Re: Highlighting being alone emcee: I completly understand. Pardon the pun but you sound like you have "balls of steel". He sure doesnt know what he passed up on. If you can do what you are doing you are a strong one and you will be ready to move on positivly soon. Best of luck.
Re: Highlighting being alone sourpuss: i agree with emcee.
and i have a word for you: BOUNDARIES
you might be happier if you stiffened yours up a bit. just a thought.
Re: Highlighting being alone ChristyM: Hey Bug-
I know you have your reasons for letting him live there but it has to make it more difficult for you.
I also wanted to tell you I'm a HUGE Law & Order fan and I swear I've seen every episode -- seems like there's one on all the time!
Christy
Re: Highlighting being alone AloneandCold: Thank you emcee, problem is I am ready to move on. I am not very attractive so random men are not interested in asking me out. I think I have a great personality but the only men I meet are in classes at school and again I am not attractive enough for one of them to just come up and ask me out. I have no money so I cannot just hang out at places single people are and on top of that I have my children. My friends are not the set you up type so no help there. I tried online dating but hey apparently I am not even attractive enough for them to answer my emails. I tried asking a couple guys I knew out myself but that did not go so well either. So while I am full ready to move on I do not see that I will ever have the opportunity.
Sourpuss; Aye boundaries well boundaries I have, they aren't respected but I try to enforce them.
Christy; I love Law and Order, but dang when you watch enough you just run into reruns. :)
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