Re: Highlighting being alone AloneandCold: Thank you for your suggestions. I cannot jog (I have bad knees, which is why the army pays my school). But I do have a membership at the Y, I just need to make myself go down there every day and do it. I have been going with a friend for months, but she gets there more then me because things keep coming up (mostly homework and moving). She is losing weight but I have not. Does anyone know a good, safe way to lose weight that doesn't cost money? I have to eat the same food my kids eat bacause of money issues so I cannot be cooking two meals either.
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Thank you for your suggestions. I cannot jog (I have bad knees, which is why the army pays my school). But I do have a membership at the Y, I just need to make myself go down there every day and do it. I have been going with a friend for months, but she gets there more then me because things keep coming up (mostly homework and moving). She is losing weight but I have not. Does anyone know a good, safe way to lose weight that doesn't cost money? I have to eat the same food my kids eat bacause of money issues so I cannot be cooking two meals either.
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I just posted something about how to do that today in the Food/Recipe sub-forum.
Re: Highlighting being alone little_sparrow: It sounds like you are doing a lot of the right things. Good for you! Now all you need is a change in your attitude about yourself and you will be all set.
Can I offer a book suggestion? Intimate Connections by David Burns.
It is all about self-talking yourself into feeling good about yourself and I really think that is all you need. When you feel good about yourself, you beam it to the world ... and that is how you turn your light on.
Turning your light on involves feeling so good about yourself that you mentally think everyone you meet is lucky to have met you. People believe what you present about yourself to them. If you are convinced you are sexy, smart and good enough ... they will be convinced as well.
The weight issue is your issue. There are tons of sexy bigger women out there ... they are sexy because THEY believe it.
One of the best things you can do to turn your light on is have fun. Have fun anyway you can and as much as you can. Just delight yourself till you can't stand it. Mamma Gena's (I think that is her name) book on the School of Womanly Arts is a GREAT bible to this. It is all about pleasing yourself.
I have found that a woman who can have fun, seldom wants for company. Fun and happiness are the two greatest aphrodisiacs.
I would LOVE to help you write an ad. PM me when you are ready to take that step and we'll work on it together.
lots of love - sparrow
Re: Highlighting being alone timetobefree: Hey Bug! Too bad we don't live closer together...we could go out!
I know the feeling...he gets to move on and have fun and you are left behind feeling like this is as good as it is ever going to get.
I know it often feels impossible to meet someone. But it isn't. I promise. I am no skinny-minny, believe me, and my new bf loves me, a few extra pounds or not. I agree with little_sparrow. We have to find a way to make you feel better about yourself. You will project that. Whether or not you look different, people will take you differently. And it doesn't matter if you live in a small town, all it takes is one person to see it and be drawn to it!
What can I do to help? Just let me know!
Amy ;D
PS--I also PMed you...
Re: Highlighting being alone AloneandCold: Hey girl! I really do swear you must be my twin or something, you always get exactly what I mean or feel. :) How are you btw?
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