In Disbelief JulieInNC: I'm sure this is a story ya'll have heard often, but I'll tell it anyway...
My husband and I got married last summer, and last month I found out that he was cheating on me. I thought all those late nights at work were actually spent at work, so that he could get promotions and things. And it ends up he was having an affair with a woman at work for almost 3 months.
I am just in shock. I don't even know what to feel at this point. My parents kept telling me that it was odd how we weren't in the honeymoon stage and had only been married a few months, but I just brushed it off.
I just don't even know what steps to take. Should I get a lawyer? Try to reconcile? Should I move out? I just don't know what to do. I'd love some help...
Thanks,
Julie
Re: In Disbelief sourpuss: sorry you had to find us under these circustances, but welcome....
have you spoken to your husband yet? what does he say about his affair? has it ended?
since you've only recently found out, it is sometimes best to take a little time to "decompress" before making a decision that will affect the rest of your life, one way or the other.
deep breath, take care of yourself. think about what YOU want out of life.
Re: In Disbelief JulieInNC: We are still living together. He admits to his affair, but says he's confused. He doesn't know if he wants to be with me or her. He claims to have his relationship with her "on hold" until he decides, but I have a hard time believing that after all that's happened.
Re: In Disbelief sigkapgirl: Julie ~
Do you think you can trust your husband enough to reconcile? I definitely would recommend marriage counseling if you decide to try and work things out.
You might want to consider consulting with a lawyer just so you know your options about separation, divorce, etc.
This probably wasn't much help... I know this is really hard to go through. Stay strong :)
TH
Re: In Disbelief sourpuss: i hate to say this, but you may have to give him a time limit to pull his head out of his butt. "on hold" does not mean he has broken it off.
i'm in an angry place today, so do think carefully before you do anything, but i would say to heck with his "confusion".
is there somewhere else you can stay for a while?
sit him down & tell him to take all the time he needs to sort himself out, but you are out of here, you are no man's second choice.
you deserve better than this.
Click More for the next page.
