Re: In Disbelief Older Guy: Julie - not sure how long that you'd been together before marriage...but i honestly believe that you deserve better than what you've jjust described......
This guy sounds like an immature, lying and irresponsible jerk... if you can;t trust him after a few months, i'd be pretty worried about the next 10 years.
Good luck to you ! (((((((HUGS)))))))
Bob
Re: In Disbelief riversandlakes:
he's acting like he is doing you a whole MOUNTAIN EVEREST of favor by putting it "on hold" (how dare a husband like this). this lack of remorse shows you how little he thinks of the marriage, and of course, your feelings.
perhaps as little and invisible as dust.
did he forget he got M.A.R.R.I.E.D., and was NOT dating? "on hold"?! >:(
Re: In Disbelief clb: My husband says there was noone else, although people tell me there had to be with the way he ended it. I know for myself if there was I would not / could not take him back. I would never be able to trust him and would worry if and when he woud do it again. I know people say that mistakes happen, but you are MARRIED, those types of mistakes should not happen. I am having a hard enough time thinking now that we are sepearted there may be someone else and do not know if I could take him back if there was because I would always wonder if this relationship started before our breakup, and maybe he did actually cheat. I know I deserve better then someone who would put me through everything he did with or without him cheating on me, but it is still hard to let him go.
Take time to think, ask him to leave, if he will not find somplace to stay away from him to think. How was he when you were dating? Was he committed?
My thoughts are with you. Try to focus on yourself and not why this happened, but putting YOUR life and feelings in order. Good luck!
