Re: In Disbelief Tarheel: Ya know, I'd reply here, but I think Sourpuss just said it best, Julie.
From one Tar Heel to another, keep your head up and stay strong. You'll be fine.
Re: In Disbelief celticgypsy: www.surviving infidelity.com
it's a very helpful site. good luck...I know exactly how you feel. :(
Re: In Disbelief Lome: Hey....
go to the site, it will help.
Sourpuss said it all....
sorry you found us....read alot here and ask for help....we will give it.
Re: In Disbelief hurting: Julie - I do know how you feel. You feel like you can't breathe, like life isn't worth living sometimes. You probably want to know all about her. is she prettier? is she better at cooking? etc etc...When I found out who the OW woman was I was shocked. For me the affair went on with me knowing about it for about 3 months. It is not usually about the other woman - it's usually only cause she is different...not better..just different. I too lost about 10 lbs in 2 weeks and I looked like crap. You just want some relief from the feelings you are feeling and it seems like you will never be happy again. I would really suggest taking some time to see what happens before you make any big decisions. Now is not a good time because emotions are so high. Is he still seeing her? I guess if he works with her..he will have to. I wish I could be more help...but know that everyone on OJAR is here to help!!
Re: In Disbelief mydarkdreams: [quote author=hurting link=topic=14579.msg123371#msg123371 date=1120962728">
Julie - I do know how you feel. You feel like you can't breathe, like life isn't worth living sometimes. You probably want to know all about her. is she prettier? is she better at cooking? etc etc...When I found out who the OW woman was I was shocked. For me the affair went on with me knowing about it for about 3 months. It is not usually about the other woman - it's usually only cause she is different...not better..just different. I too lost about 10 lbs in 2 weeks and I looked like crap. You just want some relief from the feelings you are feeling and it seems like you will never be happy again. I would really suggest taking some time to see what happens before you make any big decisions. Now is not a good time because emotions are so high. Is he still seeing her? I guess if he works with her..he will have to. I wish I could be more help...but know that everyone on OJAR is here to help!!
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Even though my ex didn't cheat, he ended it right before beginning it with her - I too wanted to know about her, what made her BETTER than me? I found out - there's NOTHING she has that is better than me, other than no responsibility - and I don't really think that is "better" but is probably more attractive to my ex, since he is going on 40 chronologically but about 15 mentally. I found out, she is not prettier than me, better than me etc in any way.. in fact, the opposite is true - so I am confused at it all sometimes, but mostly - I just try and be glad that she now has him and the shit he dishes out and I no longer have to deal with him.
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