I feel like i'm having an asthma attack llcoolrey: Ok, I'm not sure how to begin. But let try to summarize. I am completely confused and hurt. I met someone almost 2 years ago. Now when I met this person I was living with someone. Now before you draw your conclusions, let me explain. The woman I was living with, she and and were having MAJOR problems. She and I would have moved on if we could financially do so. We were codependent due to financials constraints. I felt as if we were stuck in a bad situation and had no hope for happiness. Then I met someone. This person totally changed me. She was also in a horrible relationship and eventually divorced. Now because of the situation I tried to distance myself from her because I realized that if I became involved that I would be setting myself up for heartache. When I tried, she would not let me. She insisted that we stay together, that this was meant to be. It was destiny. Eventually I gave in. I started to believe it was destiny. I fell in love. I feel like this is the first time I have ever been in love, as if all the other relationships were just practice for this kind of love. Her divorce caused her to relocate 3 hours away to her parents home. Our plans were to eventually move her back when she could get back on her feet. It's been almost 2 years and she still isn't here. I am still living with the same woman. I also have kids from a previous marriage. Now her biggest issues have been that she has not met any of my family members or my kids; the two most important people in my life. I have been divorced 8 years and my kids have only been introduced to 2 other woman since the divorce. I do not want to confuse them or make things more difficult for them. They mean to much to me; the second issue is because she has not met the woman I'm living with. She feels as if I'm hiding her. The only reason I have not introduced her is because I am still not financially ready to live on my own without a roommate. She finally had enough and said that she couldn't handle the two hurdles and decided to leave. I asked what could I do to make her stay, and she said to be introduced to woman I was living with. I finally made a decision to make the introduction. Well once I did, she now tells me she is confused and wasn't sure what she wanted to do. I am giving her what she asked and now she says it may be too late. HELP!!! Am I too late or is this repairable? I am completely in love with this woman. I even have the support of the person I live with. :'( :'(
Re: I feel like i'm having an asthma attack AfterMath: llcoolrey,
Welcome to OJAR. My advice is that you put the kids first. You're relationship with the others sounds extremely complicated. Not sure where to begin. Post again, I'll try & give you some advice.
Re: I feel like i'm having an asthma attack llcoolrey: I agree my kids are the most important things in my life. They are oblivious my problems. But I believe they can sense the sorrow in my life. I am just confused as to which direction I should point my life. I love this woman but I am afraid I showed her how much until it was too late. She says she loves me but is confused as to why I took so long to show her.
Re: I feel like i'm having an asthma attack sourpuss: i'm not sure if i've missed something here....
you say "it's been 2 years and she still hasn't come here". dude, it's been 2 years and you are still living with your ex.
what have/are you doing to make living elsewhere a possiblility?
you should put the kids first, but 2 years is plenty of time to fish or cut bait.
i don't understand what you having a "roomie" has to do with this. are you still presenting yourselves as a couple? if your "roomie" was another guy would this be an issue?
she should be introduced to your family, friends & possibly kids. as daddy's "friend", you don't have to make out in front of them or present her as the love of your life. but she deserves to be acknowledged.
when were you thinking of introducing her to them? when you moved her sofa into your house? at your wedding?
it's probably repairable, but you are gonna have to make some tough choices.
