Question for the Guys hurting: Ok - so I have this question - it may be men from mars, women from venus kinda thing.
When you are in a happy relationship, do you need space to get away from her once in awhile?
I have noticed that things will be going amazingly good for such a long time, then all of a sudden he becomes distant for a few days and keeps to himself. I know men and women are different..is that why?
he told me he has a fear of committment? is it because he is getting freaked out?
Anyone have any opinion they want to share? would be welcomed
Re: Question for the Guys Tarheel: No, I don't need space. To me, I think "space" is a joke.
What i do need every now and then is th opportunity to be myself. To do the things I like to do, when I want to do them, and at the pace I want to do them. I made this analogy in the "What do men/women want" thread, but I think it applies here:
Sometimes a guy just wants his woman to say, "Honey, sit down, have a beer, and watch the game. Enjoy yourself."
If a man can't do his own thing every now and then, he begins to question himself. However, if he can't make time for his woman or allow his woman her own time to do her own thing (whatever girls do to relax - what, popcorn and a chick flick?), then he may not be ready for a really serious relationship.
Just my opinion...
Re: Question for the Guys jillieb44: Is he an introvert? Maybe he just needs alone time to recharge? I know I go nuts if I don't get time to be by myself and do my own thing with no interruptions. The amount of time I need depends on the day. If I've had a busy day and have had to deal with lots of people and kid noise, I need more. If I've had a relatively quiet day, I need less.
It may be more of a personality thing than a relationship thing.
Jillie
Re: Question for the Guys links9814: Like aTarheel I think space is a big joke, but I'm also not afriad of committment so I don't have any clue if those two run hand in hand. In my relationships it is usually the woman who wants "space", whatever the hell that means.
Maybe in your case he just thinks by getting away for a few days he is somehow avoiding committment, just a thought.
Re: Question for the Guys HopelessGeek: Ok my view on this is that I need time to persue what I want to. This, given some of the hobbies I have, sometimes involves a couple of days away. But then again I am unlikely to ever enter a relationship with someone who doesn't share that part of my life with me again like I did before.
"I need space" is for my part a bit of a bad sign. I know I said it once, but I was so confined then and trying to work out what to do. I don't think if I was in a healthy relationship I would feel the need.
I may need a couple of hours to do what I want, or a chance to do it, like watch a movie I really want to or read something I am really into, but beyond that no.
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