should we take bets? amola: ok, just because i have to be a smart@$$ or else i'll lose my mind....
tomorrow is my first "official" doctor appointment for the baby. this is where we get to hear the heartbeat, which will also at this point confirm that things are going ok after the scare that we had. t has said all along that he will go with me. now, we went to the e.r. on june 17, and i've seen him exactly 2x since then--once that same day when iso was here, and once last friday when he stopped by solely to get the info he needed for his cell phone.
i called him this afternoon (first contact since last friday) to tell him that his cell phone bill is here and to ask him if he's going to be there tomorrow. confirmed the time and the location of the doctor's office with him.
should we take bets on whether or not he's going to show up, and how he'll behave if he does?
i'm betting that he shows up......but has little to no reaction to hearing the heartbeat. (not what i want to happen, because ideally i'd like to have him show up, hear the heartbeat, realize what an @$$ he's being, and beg for my forgiveness.)
anyone else?
:)
amola
Re: should we take bets? Smiley17: Hmmm... negative Smiley or positive Smiley?
Which one would you like?
;) I'll base my answer on that! ;)
Re: should we take bets? caligirl: hey amola--
my answer stems from what i've read about your situation--in the past few weeks--so please just bear that in mind.
based on his inconsistent behavior,lack of communication and excitement..it doesn't look good--my guess is that he''' end up promising to come, and may cancel on the last minute---i truly hope i am wrong bc it would be nice to hear that he will follow through--what are your instincts? usually your first instinct on something is generally right.
---Cali
Re: should we take bets? timetobefree: Hey, amola!
Well, hmmm, what to say? Girl, you have been through it and back. And then some. And a little more thrown in for good measure.
My guess is that he'll grudgingly show up, kinda like you said, or like caligirl said, he'll back out last minute.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I really am. I sure hope that tomorrow goes well as far as the baby stuff goes. And I also hope that whatever he does gives your relationship the kick it needs in either direction...if you know what I mean. I know you are trying to give him his space and what have you not, but really, stringing you along like this is unfair and stressful to you. Wouldn't it be better to just know...either he is in or out? ::)
Sending lots of positive vibes your way,
Amy ;D
Re: should we take bets? amola: [quote author=timetobefree link=topic=15023.msg126019#msg126019 date=1121296584"> I know you are trying to give him his space and what have you not, but really, stringing you along like this is unfair and stressful to you. Wouldn't it be better to just know...either he is in or out? ::)[/quote">
exactly....and after tomorrow, i'm going to start pushing for a decision.....the way i see it is he has 3 choices---
a) he wants nothing to do with me or the baby. fine. i'll get over it.
b) "we" are over, but he wants to be involved in the pregnancy/birth/baby's life. great. we'll work out the details.
c) we ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after. after i give him a swift kick in the @$$ for putting me through he!! for the last month.
at this point, i would be ok with any one of those decisions. as long as i know what the decision is. i'm not going to sit around on my ever-growing @$$ and wait around for him.
it's been one month since he told me he needed space. i just realized that today. in my book, a month is long enough.
anyway, my appointment is at 8:45 tomorrow. i'll let everyone know how it goes....... :)
:)
amola
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