Re: when the ex comes back Lome: My husband came back on June 1. He says that he was miserable without me....and he came to see that the problems he faced came from within himself.
He left his mistress....She begged him not to (and has been trying to gain his attention, still)
We are happy. I was able to forgive him of he affair.....I love him and married for life...
Now, am I setting myself up? Could be. Is my mind still a mess? Yes.
I would rather fight for my marriage with my eyes open and aware that there is an enemy than to quit without ever knowing why.
Now......do I want vengence? Jean Claude, my pet alligator, just can't stand another bite....he is just stuffed. Now, I would not want Jean Claude to get a tummy ache, would I?
Just keep this in mind....Karma happens.
Re: when the ex comes back kittenpants: [quote author=sourpuss link=topic=15024.msg126057#msg126057 date=1121300438">
i think these people come back because they realize that they aren't any happier on the outside of the relationship, so maybe that wasn't the problem.
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My ex has not completely come back, but we are talking about it. What Sourpuss said is exactly the case. It didn't take him long to realize I wasn't the cause of his unhappiness. He is now exploring that, and it seems to be working.. Fingers crossed.
Re: when the ex comes back clb: Soccorgirl- you are not alone, my ex did not cheat, or so he says. He left me because I was the cause of his unhappiness. I think he has some psych issues and blames it all on me. Seven months have passed since he told me he needed a divorce in order to not go insane, and three months since we have been seperated. He still has not filed or done anything to proceed. I am hoping that maybe he is having second thoughts and will come back but I think he just to damn lazy! But I have thought what I would do if he'd come back. Most of the time I would take him back in a heart beat, but I would be worried that this problem would occur again. I think I would have to insist that he go to therapy. I truely love him, but the pain he has caused in me and the trust and naivety that I have lost becasue of him will be hard to get over even with how much I love him, but then again I believe in the sancity of marriage and our vows through good times and bad. But the problem is he does not. He actually said he didn't vow to loose his mind in the process!
Sorry for such a long answer!
Re: when the ex comes back ChiefWiggum: I believe my x came back because she realized the mistakes she made, but I believe that realization caused her new relationship to breakup, so I'm not quite sure how to answer your question.
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