Re: Runaway train Ilosther: One thing you said makes me have hope for myself.
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But how does one throw away so many wonderful memories and experiences just like that. [/quote">
I hope if and when my wife leaves me, I can also throw away the wonderful memories as easily as she has destroyed them. I still hold onto them, and that's what kills me. I have no advice, but I hope you heal as quickly as she has hurt you
Re: Runaway train Pope: I am with Havehope on this one. My wife is like a runaway train. Six weeks ago she says she has lost her faith in God and thinks someone is out there for me that is better suited for me b/c I have faith. She says she has been feeling this way for more than 6 months, but six weeks earlier she says tough times don't last, tough people do.
A week later I ask "is something attracting you to another person" and she admits she has felt chemistry with another person at work, but she will focus on us. A week later she is inviting him to go on an out of twon trip with her work. I ask her to go to counseling. Three sessions and she ends it. She never slowed down, just like a train running down hill on fire. I know I am a great guy and she admits it. I have always shown her respect, support in her interests and love. We have a son and have been together for ten years. Why not at least give the relationship a try? She says she doesn't believe in marriage and sees it as a co-dependency. She just wants her independence. I have never stifled her independence, but rather supported it.
When you start to have feelings like this and you are part of a family in which everyone gets hurt, why not share it at the beginning when you have the greatest chance of pulling things together? She saw an attorney yesterday and is now saying she wants our son most of the time and our house. I can't control if she leaves or breaks up our home. However, I can fight for my home in regards to the walls that surround me at night. Why should I have to lose most of the time with our son, my house, financial security beacuse she changes her mind about us? I don't think so...
