Re: This is a first for me, and it's really cool. jimloveless: i guess i need the whole base thing explained to me. i never played much baseball. just give me something to go by... which base is heavy petting? ;D
Re: This is a first for me, and it's really cool. wowee: along the same lines as WhiskeyGirl already said, it really is hard to not go back. More importantly even if you are happy with this arrangement, watch for signs in her behavior to make sure she is really happy with this new arrangement as well. I can't tell you how many girls I know who would play along with the "lets be friends" role while still secretly hoping ( and sometimes plotting ) for when it will be more. I do hope it works out for you, I mean we can never have too many friends, right? And I can say that I think it takes a pretty strong person to take the advice that you received from Smiley & make changes based on it - seeing how smiley was right about the sex/attachment thing. Best of luck to you.
Re: This is a first for me, and it's really cool. WhiskeyGirl: [quote author=blazin'heart link=topic=15031.msg126144#msg126144 date=1121308945">
Something that Smiley reminded me of, and that I happen to agree with is, women get emotionally attached once they start having sex with a man.
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WTF is this? "women get emotionally attached"? UUUMMMMMMM ....just women, eh? see, I didnt know that ::) It can happen to men ya know!!! :P
anyway....heres my take on this.....its not the sex that makes her emotionally attached.....I am emotionally attached to all my close friends and I certainly haven't had sex with all of them. Sex complicates things and makes it easier for feelings to get hurt and relationships to end I suppose but just because you dont have sex with her does not mean that she wont be emotionally attached. Heres the other thing....I am not interesting in getting seriously involved with anyone at this point but I do date and yes I do have sex on occasion! ::) Am I emotionally attached? yes, of course but I dont want a commited relationship, I'm not ready for one, I am happy to have my own life and my space right now. I really dont feel that this means I have to stay emotionally detached from anyone. I accept it for what it is, I enjoy the time I do spend with them and I dont hold anything back. Why does this have to be so complicated? I dont get it ??? I also want to point out that my situation was apparently a little different in that it wasnt me who was too attached.....strange? me being a woman and all! Anyway.....the bottem line is if you arent comfortable with it then dont do it, its totally your call but dont chalk it up to not being able to because "women get emotionally attached" Its all a matter of personal choice...........and I still think I'm right :P
Anyway Blazin' stop thinking so much!! LOL I didnt mean to pull the blanket out from under you or anything, Im just giving you a hard time about it is all. I have been known to be wrong on occasion, not often mind you, but it does happen!!! Enjoy the friendship !!!
Re: This is a first for me, and it's really cool. Smiley17: [quote author=blazin'heart link=topic=15031.msg126144#msg126144 date=1121308945">
Something that Smiley reminded me of, and that I happen to agree with is, women get emotionally attached once they start having sex with a man. I don't want that to happen, cause I know 2nd base leads to 3rd and then Home Run! tee hee. I don't want this girl getting attached to me romantically as I am not in a place to reciprocate right now. Keeping her from getting hurt is my first priority in this whole thing. That's why I'm not sure I agree with you that friends with benefits is really all that "ok".
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Blazin - You REALLY made me smile with this one!! My pride in you is off the wall now!! You made an excellent choice, and I couldn't be more proud of you!
And you're right, the friends with benefits things never really works. People can think to themselves that it is, but it doesn't. You've made a wise and smart choice here. Good for you!!! ;D
*Smiley's SOOOO proud!!!*
Re: This is a first for me, and it's really cool. Lome: Define your own friendship.....I am just so glad that you have made a friend....
Good Luck
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