Re: She still loves me but just needs here space? Slash: Not to discount my prior posts...I would be interested in what people see in those as well but I plan on being everything I can be for my wife. She says that I'm welcome to come out with her anytime but admits that she doesn't push me because it's never been my thing however I plan on proving her wrong. I'm going to go out and have a good time with her every chance we get. This Friday her mom is taking both of our kids over night and we are going to go out. I'm hopeful that we will be able to do the same next week but at the very least we will get a sitter. Beyond that I'm going to try and do the little romantic things too. I don't think we are that far apart yet and I'm not even sure it would ever get to that. We have had a good marriage and I'm going to invest in it all that I have because I believe in it. As for cheating there is nothing worse than that, both of us have always said that. I'm not preparing myself to deal with that now because I think it would be more constructive to focus my energy on the positives.
Re: She still loves me but just needs here space? Lome: Good luck Slash....
aim for the positive....give it your 100%
My husband still thinks that cheating is horrible....but, that did not stop him.
Re: She still loves me but just needs here space? JimB: I dunno - I say if you go looking for trouble you'll probably find it.
In your initial post you didn't bring up any issues that couldn't be solved by better communication between the two of you. It does sound like you are each going through a bit of a transition as individuals, so the relationship is trying to adapt. None of the things she is doing, individually or collectively, have to mean anything in particular. But trying to guess what they mean is a waste of your time and unnecessarily stressful.
It doesn't sound like you two have an utter failure to communicate, but perhaps there are steps you can take to further open the lines of communication. I'd suggest you take some time to think about what you could do to encourage more sharing of information. Perhaps direct questioning about your suspicions isn't the right approach, but there's more than one way to skin a cat. One possibility is to ask more questions in general - to take a more active interest in her new life. If it's genuine on your part, you'll get genuine answers. The more you know, the less you'll suspect.
Re: She still loves me but just needs here space? Discarded: The main thing to worry about is sudden changes, things she does all the time or infrequently throughout the marriage are no big deal. If she shaves infrequently throughout the marriage then no big deal. If you get my drift here.
There are trouble signs, but it's just that trouble signs. If they are normal in your marriage then they are not trouble signs within your marriage.
I do agree with Whiskeygirl, get out there and date her. Every marriage should have Dates within it and never stop, besides the great fun you can have on them they keep the marriage close and in good shape.
If there are sudden changes then you need to look at those and see what is causing them, Is she unhappy are you unhappy, how can both of you as a team make the changes better. It is never too late to get out there and improve a marriage - even the best of marriages.
Discarded
Re: She still loves me but just needs here space? ajw: Well you did bring up the subject of her "pubic topiary" because you realised it was a clue towards possible infidelity.You don't sound like a jealous or possessive man,so i say trust your instincts,trust your gut feeling and if you think she's cheating you should confront her."needing her space" in a marriage is not carte blanche to run out and cheat on you and you should let her know that.If she needs her space then ok....take some time and maybe she will come back.but if she's using it as an excuse to start another relationship...then sorry Slash....but u need to cut this b***h loose.
good luck
Andy
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