You will be over it when you find somebody new!!!??? mophead123: I hate this line so much. Just about as much as the "there are plenty of fish in the sea." Why do I need to find somebody new to be over my ex. I hate this idea but feel that it seems true. Otherwise you revert to your ex...am I wrong. It pisses the sh!t out of me becuase before my ex, I was perfectly fine alone and single. I could enjoy myself. Now it feels like I am on the disabled list with an injury. Like I'm not in the game. How come last time I was single, I was the starting pitcher...now I feel like I am the guy sitting through the season on the bench, but I won't even be starting again til I find somebody new. Last time I was starting without anyone else.
Sorry for th baseball analogy...but this irritates me. How can I not look at this as a scar? I was never lonely before when I was single. Course is felt great when I met someone I liked, but I never felt this dependency. That whole line claims you will never be ovr it without someone else and according to many on this board, we can never be 100% happy without someone else. People need others to love and love them. Well I never felt this way before meeting my ex, with regard to not being fully happy without someone else.
Can I gain my old self-sufficient, happy, independent, fully satisfied self back...with just plain old me? If not I am afraid to say what she actually did when she bashed my soul in.
Re: You will be over it when you find somebody new!!!??? Lumpy: Dear mophead,
I'm not sure how to respond to this so I'm just gonna list some more baseball analogies that may apply..
1) Ya can't hit the ball if ya don't swing at it!
2) Gotta take 'em one game at a time
3) A win is a win
4) A tie is like kissing your sister
5) It ain't over till it's over
6) There's no crying in baseball!!
Re: You will be over it when you find somebody new!!!??? gulfcoast: mophead,
you don't need anyone else.....
that is where rebounds start.;...
trust me, you don't want that....
this is something that you have to get through on your own.........
many people feel like they must find someone else to be acceptible again...
don't fall into that.....rebound is all it is...
it doesn't solve your problems...it only makes them last longer...
after a serious relationship you need time...and plenty of it...
I am sure there is some people that will telll you it is ok to find someone right after another...but be sensible....
I have been there...and I wasn't ready,......
but, I did learn that my wife was better than the rest...
lol
just take your time.....
so you can have something real..............
Re: You will be over it when you find somebody new!!!??? down south xhubbie: One of the self help teachers, Tony Robbins.. I think ??, teaches that your success or lack thereof is not necessarily comprised by what happens to you as it is to how you react to tough times. In other words, you choose your reaction.
Since you are in control of your response, you are, in fact, the starting pitcher on the mound. Pretend it's a game without an umpire... meaning that you can "warm up" for as long as you want. :D Then when you're ready to move on, you can hit on a lucky lady/toss the opening pitch. ;) 8)
Re: You will be over it when you find somebody new!!!??? GretaB: [quote author=mophead123 link=topic=15040.msg126251#msg126251 date=1121319348"> It pisses the sh!t out of me becuase before my ex, I was perfectly fine alone and single. I could enjoy myself. Now it feels like I am on the disabled list with an injury. Like I'm not in the game. How come last time I was single, I was the starting pitcher...now I feel like I am the guy sitting through the season on the bench, but I won't even be starting again til I find somebody new. Last time I was starting without anyone else.
I was never lonely before when I was single. [/quote">
I've thought about this alot, because these are my feelings exactly. I read somewhere that it depends on how important the relationship was/is to you. Some relationships can feel almost platonic (been there), then others are somewhere inbetween almost-platonic/nice-to-be-with, and then there are those that feel as though you are absolute soulmates.
That probably makes sense. It always seemed easy (or easy-hard) enough to break up before (typical blues, but none-the-less, carrying on) - but when I think back to *those* relationships, there just wasn't the same "click". Nothing like this one.
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