Re: Am I a bad Person? jillieb44: GR, I'm technically separated (divorce filed, court date in Aug) and I've been dating a bit, and yes, I've slept with a couple of them. Technically adultery, yes, but in my mind since the relationship with my stbx was OVER years ago, and since the stbx and I talked and decided that there was NO WAY we were going to reconcile, that the marriage was over, dead, kaput, and no feelings left on either side, AND the fact that when I talked to my attorney, legally all they care about is division of assets (more like a business deal than anything) then I feel perfectly comfortable dating, as long as I'm not parading a bunch of men past my kids (I date when they are at the ex's).
Though if the ex found out I'm sure he'd make a huge stink...but if he cared then he should have tried to work things out with me rather than treat me like dirt.
My thoughts in a horrible run-on sentence. ;)
Jillie
Re: Am I a bad Person? sourpuss: you are not bad at all.
i would like to suggest, though, since you felt awful about the encounter even before you discovered you were the "other woman", YOU are not over your marriage, even if though the marriage is over.
give yourself a little time to grieve, babe. take care.
Re: Am I a bad Person? jimloveless: i'd rather that the lesson you take from this is to not jump into anything with your eyes closed.
If you were just out on the town looking for sex, i wouldn't have even commented here. but you weren't. you were hoping for something more. you wanted to be happy, and that is not something anyone here can judge you for.
(hug)
forgive yourself, rough. but get that divorce out of the way quick. and make sure you do learn. k? that's what's important.
Re: Am I a bad Person? getting_rough: I know deep down I am not a bad person. I just feel like sh1t. It just keeps getting worse. My husband just called to say he saw me out last night with said xbf. Wants to know if there is anything going on. I lied. I guess I didnt lie though because as of last night there really is nothing going on. I know that I dont have to tell him anyway because we are split but if I saw him out with some hot chick I think I might get mad. Double standard I guess. When will life get easier?
[color=red"> [font=Verdana"> Sweet_Jimmy:
"i would like to suggest, though, since you felt awful about the encounter even before you discovered you were the "other woman", YOU are not over your marriage, even if though the marriage is over."[/font"> [/color">
I only feel awful because I know that Adultry is wrong and technically I am still married.
My mother raised me a certain way and I feel guilty about it in a religious way.
I do still love my husband BUT; I think my anger toward my husband is greater than the love at the moment.
Is that wrong?
Anyway,
Thanks to all of you for the nice words of advice and wisdom. I appreciate it and need it right now.
