Re: Am I a bad Person? JerniganReturns: I don't understand. Why do you think you're a bad person? You're apart from your husband, no? And he knows that things are coming to an end, correct? And it sounds like for good reason, if he can't get his drug problem under control.

A lot of this reminds me of my situation, so I'll expand on this a bit.

Shortly before we agreed to divorce, I discovered my wife had been conducting a serious emotional affair with a person she'd met at school. She was a sloppy drunk, so wasn't too good at covering her tracks; one night, I found her passed out, mouth agape, in front of her computer, and there on the screen was an email from this new fellow G. "Miss you," it said. Looked at some of the other emails out of curiosity---hey, I never claimed to be decent or respectful---and discovered future plans together when " was out of the equation." Some other sweet nothings lobbed back in forth, which I want to rant about, but won't. Self-restraint---ain't it great?

I woke her up. She was so drunk and drugged I couldn't even get through to her. I just said,  "There's a right way to conduct an affair. Don't write affair emails under the influence, you dope. Just for future reference."

I can see why she conducted this affair. Our marriage was dead. We weren't getting along. We were just dragging our feet. To her credit, it was never consummated sexually, not that would have mattered much. The sweet nothings, the promises, the CD mixes, that pretty much closed the deal.  Hey, hope she's happy. Hope it works out, really.

I immediately contacted some other girl, now that I had license to do so. We had a short-lived passionate affair after my wife and I seperated, but then her first love came back from the war, and it was "So long Jernigan! But will you still be around when he leaves? Can things be the same?"

Look, there's no reason to feel dirty, bad or ashamed. You had no way of knowing what your ex was up to. How can you blame yourself for that? And as far as the affair thing goes, is it really, if it's over with you and your husband? Just my opinion, which I'm sure will chafe against others.






Re: Am I a bad Person? JerniganReturns: I don't understand. Why do you think you're a bad person? You're apart from your husband, no? And he knows that things are coming to an end, correct? And it sounds like for good reason, if he can't get his drug problem under control.

A lot of this reminds me of my situation, so I'll expand on this a bit.

Shortly before we agreed to divorce, I discovered she had been conducting a serious emotional affair with a person she'd met at school. She was a sloppy drunk, so wasn't too good at covering her tracks; one night, I found her passed out, mouth agape, in front of her computer, and there on the screen was an email from this new fellow G. "Miss you," it said. Looked at some of the other emails out of curiosity---hey, I never claimed to be decent or respectful---and discovered future plans together when " was out of the equation." Some other sweet nothings lobbed back in forth, which I want to rant about, but won't. Self-restraint---ain't it great?

I woke her up. She was so drunk and drugged I couldn't even get through to her. I just said,  "There's a right way to conduct an affair. Don't write affair emails under the influence, you dope. Just for future reference."

I can see why she conducted this affair. Our marriage was dead. We weren't getting along. We were just dragging our feet. To her credit, it was never consummated sexually, not that would have mattered much. The sweet nothings, the promises, the CD mixes, that pretty much closed the deal.  Hey, hope she's happy. Hope it works out, really.

I immediately contacted some other girl, now that I had license to do so. We had a short-lived passionate affair after my wife and I seperated, but then her first love came back from the war, and it was "So long Jernigan! But will you still be around when he leaves? Can things be the same?"

Look, there's no reason to feel dirty, bad or ashamed. You had no way of knowing what your ex was up to. How can you blame yourself for that? And as far as the affair thing goes, is it really, if it's over with you and your husband? Just my opinion, which I'm sure will chafe against others.