Confusion sets in............... Blueyes424: Just when I think that I have my mind straight, and I know what I want, another wrench gets thrown into the mix.
Most of you know about my fascination with Penguin's brother Bubba. I like him A LOT!! He is not ready for a relationship other than friends and has made this known, which is fine with me. I have taken the stand that I will be friends with him, and be around until he can't stand NOT having me there, and voila~relationship.
I am now however reconsidering this. I know that no matter what happens, Bubba and I will always be friends. We are really good friends now, and he makes me laugh, and we always have a lot of fun when we are together.
Now for the wrench. I dated R back in January. We hit it off really really well, but things went at lightening speed. We only dated about 6 weeks, and had already talked about engagement and moving in together. Yeah, I know, WAY too fast. R freaked out, and we broke up.....due to the fact that he didn't call me for 3 weeks. I tried calling him, never got an answer, and he never called me back. When we finally did talk again, we decided that we shouldn't see each other anymore. Okay fine.
So, the last several months, I've talked to him sporatically here and there. Every once in a while type of thing. But for about the last month, I've been talking almost every day. He keeps telling me that he misses me, and that he regrets how things ended, and he often wonders if we would still be together if he hadn't screwed up. I don't know what to do.
I DO miss him. He quickly became my best friend. We talked on the phone for several hours a night. He lives an hour away, so we couldn't see each other everyday, but we spent weekends together, and he was always (well almost always) there for me. We had a lot of fun together. We hung out with his mom and step dad at karaoke, and we just had a blast together.
I am just worried that if I let him back in, he will freak out and the same thing will happen all over again. But I am also afraid that if I don't "test the waters" and sit around waiting on Bubba that I could miss out on something that could be wonderful.
I know if Bubba and I were to date, things would be great. We get along really well, and we have a lot of fun together. But, I also know the same of R.
SO I need some help here............Opinions please? What should I do?
Give R a chance? Or say no because I am waiting on Bubba?
Re: Confusion sets in............... little_sparrow: My advice is don't wait for Bubba. He is a big boy and if he told you he didn't have feelings for you *that* way ... then move on. If he changes his mind, he knows where to find you. Men can waste years of our lives with ambivalent, non-committal relationships, if we allow it especially if they feel justified because they *know* they told us and we ignored the message.
I would date R cautiously. Let him pursue you, set up dates, etc. Don't rush. Just take your time and see how you feel about him again. If you rush, you risk him bolting again.
Good Luck
Re: Confusion sets in............... mydarkdreams: I would say no to "waiting for Bubba" you can't put your life on hold waiting for something that may or may not ever happen. I'd say explore things with R - but don't jump in both feet and then look.. take it slower.
Good luck!!
Re: Confusion sets in............... mine: for what it it is worth
me and my mini mouse ...did the same as you ...maybe too fast
yet now we are back together
and it is better than ever...
who knows..exactly how we will end up
but right now i am enjoying some of the best moments in my life
why would i want to waste that
go for it ...try again.....
you will always wonder if you did not...
Re: Confusion sets in............... Blueyes424: I do feel like I missed out on something with R when we split up in February. He is a wonderful guy, great with kids, great with me. I just think that we let things progress to quickly. But I don't know if he's being serious about missing me, or if he thinks that he can easily get a piece.
The sex was beyond great with us, and he knows I think that, and I am terrified that he is only out for that. I don't think he'd do that, but people change, and I just don't know.
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