Re: Emotional Stages following Separation/Divorce Phyxius: Stage 10 here - without a doubt. I bounce back and forth between 8 and 9 a lot here lately...
Re: Emotional Stages following Separation/Divorce genesplicer: sj, this is truly a great post. Especially for those of us swirling around between stages 4-6 trying to stay above water. :)
It's one thing for everyone you know to incessantly tell you that it takes time and will get better, but hearing it from you and other Ojarians who have fought their way up the mountain for a view of that new horizon, well that makes it feel attainable.
Thanks for reminding us all to keep climbing, some days I feel I'll be stuck here at base camp forever.
Re: Emotional Stages following Separation/Divorce reck: I don’t know if I go along with this cataloguing and numbering of every feeling you go through, a bit too analytical for this guy, but hey everyone needs a hobby. ;D
For me its up, down, level….and level is for me the best.
And that’s where ive been for a number of weeks now, excepting how what has happened has effected my view of life, and how I will probably live my life from now on.
As for "the mend" the degree will depend on how you valued what you have lost. For me it will always be a tragic lose because the type of relationship I thought I had was the foundation stone of how I viewed life….and without it the other things in life look frivolous and unimportant at this point in time.
Even if the type of relationship I aspire too was right under my nose, I don’t think the effects this catastrophe have had on me would allow me to see it.
So its acceptance rather than actual healing I think.
Re: Emotional Stages following Separation/Divorce reck: [quote author=Sweet_jimmy link=topic=15070.msg126877#msg126877 date=1121378748">
nah, i was only hoping someone could use this as a very simplistic reference
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Hey mate isnt my UP or DOWN simplistic enough ;D ;D ;D
The real trick is to find the emotion that doesn’t raise its ugly head in these disturbing times :)
Re: Emotional Stages following Separation/Divorce wowee: great outline Jimmy - I think we can all relat ein some way to how each of these stages feels. I am stuck at 10 & will probably continue to be until I can find a way to once & for all feel & go through 6. This is a step I skip every time & allow myslef to feel hurt, but not angry for some reason. I think I need to get really angry for just once in my life & then maybe I will really be able to move on. I suppose he better hope I don't find a way to do that before he comes back ( in about 1 1/2 months ) All of his things are still in this house. I have nicely packed everything up for him & didn't so much as bend a picture, or smudge a coffee cup that was his. Wonder if everything would be as safe if I can just hit stage 6 for the first time in my life? ;)
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