Re: Counseling? what to expect? Slash: When I went to counseling years ago I had the absolute worst attitude. I had totally checked out and had a lot of anger but it still worked. We addressed the issues and I worked on the issues I had which were contributors to where we were at. I believe that you have to earn your way out of a marriage especially if kids are involved. I think you have to have hope because you don't start off at this site (nothing personal).
Re: Counseling? what to expect? dulok68: Hi,
My wife & I are having counselling. My story has been on here previously.
Very quickly, 16 years married, 4 kids, she cheated with daughter's karate instructor last year, finally got confession in February.
Had 4th session this morning.
1st session was just a 'getting to know the facts' session really. But the other 3 have been good. Been going weekly for the last 3, took ages to get a slot from 1st session to 2nd, was losing hope.
Gets better each week.
Taking the focus away from what happened, to what caused it, and what we need to do if we BOTH want to fix it.
I always leave the counselling feeling that we can do this, we can put it back together again.
Friends told me to go for counselling. Wife made appt in first instance, then did not want to go, I stuck to guns and got her to go. 2nd session came and again, she did not want to go, again stuck to guns and got her to go. She does want it to work as well, but was afraid of what the counseller would say or what direction she would go. I think we are now both comfortable about going, and I look forward to it. We even get homework!!! :-[
We have got a 3 week break now until next session. Not looking forward to the break to be honest. Roll on 2nd week in August.
