Re::'( justmenow: E, I wish I could have reached through the phone last night...seriously. The pain in your voice was unbearable. The whole trust thing was huge - this woman needs counseling. She jumped right from her old marriage of eight years and into your arms without taking the time to heal first. You're dealing with old baggage here, Bud, and it's not something you can get rid of. She has to face her past now, and is making the last ditch effort to cling to what's comfortable.
Everything you said last night made perfect sense, so you do have a good grip on reality. That I never doubted. But then that pesky emotional goop gets in the way and puts your reality on shaky ground. Hang in there. You know the truth, you've seen the path that 's right for you - don't let this patch of fog make you lose your way. She is facing her ghosts now, don't let her drag you down into it with her. This does *not*count as the "for worse" part of your marriage vows.
Hang in there, E. You will be ok. :-*
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Re::'( dominowin: Safety,
So sorry to hear about this! There's nothing worse than this kind of manipulative behavior. And that's what it is, you know. No matter how much she actually feels like she misses you, blah blah blah, it's selfish and manipulative of her to put you through this and make you get to the point that you're crying and posting a thousand sad smileys.
Hang tough, you *will* get through this!
Re::'( PiscesGoddess: I dont know what else to say that we havent already talked about..I am so sorry you are hurting..ugh.. :'(
But you know your gonna make it.. You have TONS of support here ...and I'll lend you my goddess powers any day ;D
Shes a witchy leechy sleestackian woman..and we knew she would do this.. but ..that doesnt make the pain any less. You know I support you no matter what.. Just stay strong buddy.. Ive got scaffolding and hey..I'll even order ya a pizza if ya want! ;)
Always remember.. SNTS...PKL...and...I got your back..babe! LOL....Oh and Keep on truckin! ;D
The Goddess of butter...
Re::'( EZ: Safety every time I have posted something sad here you have always been there with your magnificent words of wisdom, your great sense of humor and your inspirations of hope. I wished I could return just one of those for you today. All I can say is that you are in my thoughts and prayers brother.
Re::'( Yellow Rose: Don't you just love this rollercoaster of love we are all on? I understand how you feel about the mixed emotions. I mailed the papers yesterday and my family seems to think that he won't sign them even though he had them drawn up.
I tell them that even if he comes crawling back to me I won't take him back no matter how hard it would be.
Why? Because he isn't the same man that he was when I married him. I love his old self and always will. I don't know or like this person he is becoming and that is what stops me dead in my tracks.
So right now I of course want to be in love being the romantic that I am and have decided for once in my life to give myself the love that I have been giving to another person for the past six years. It does wonders for the self-esteem.
I am lucky that I moved to my home state and we don't have children so I don't ever have to talk to him again. I know that your situation is so much harder because you have to see her. Maybe you should only have a "business" relationship. Only talk about the divorce and children. Don't tell her what's going on in your life and what you are up to. Keep it all "business" like.
I'm sending good thoughts your way!
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