"Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" JDorn: Has anyone else read the book "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay"
It was recommened to me by my best friend who's already been through 1 divorce as a book that would help me try to make a decision as to whether I should stay married or move on.
I finished it last week and was curious if anyone else had read it.
Re:"Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" paddington: I read it and so did my XH. It is a good book, however I think it just validates whatever you are inclined to do - in other words, I don't think it can change minds.
I read it and thought my marriage was worth saving. My H read it and said that if he were me, he would not stay. Plus he decided not to stay. I guess if you are truly ambivalent it can help.
Re:"Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" JDorn: I had hoped that it would help me make a decision, but by the time I got to the end of the book I was even more ambivalent than ever, it did however help me actually address the good and bad parts of my relationship instead of referring to them vaguely like I had been.
I read it while I was separated from my wife for a month, and it was the reason I decided to try to go home and try again to get past the problems I had, but unfortunately now a week later I'm questioning whether that was the right decision or not since we've fallen right back into our old habits of not talking or her trying to shut me off when I want to talk about what's in my head.
Re:"Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" mv2: I was truly ambivalent, and the book DID help. Not right away - it took a couple of more month's ambivalence!!! But it got me thinking about what I needed for happiness - and all that my ex was doing to hurt me, and to see that her selfishness was not going to "go away" and could no longer be "just ignored".
Re:"Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" JDorn: I think i'm truly ambivalent too, according to the books definition anyway. But by the end of the book i was around 50/50 staying vs going, i'm still right there now, but after my wife read it she now says that she's convinced that i'm going to ask for a divorce eventually.
who knows, maybe she's right. It has gotten me on that same path of thinking about what i need to find happiness in my life.
JD
