Re:Answer me this one.... TiredandScared: For me its more one and two than three. To me done is the seperation and mental closure. Also to make a choice and live by it. My marriage is still on paper but thats all it is to me right now. There is no going back because so much has changed. But I still don't have the piece of paper that tells me yes your done, I just have my feelings of it being over.
Re:Answer me this one.... Seraph: SunnyFlower,
A question (or 2), if you will:
What do you want to happen here? Are you looking to finalize your divorce and move on with a new relationship? Are you still holding out hope for some kind of reconcilation with your STBX somewhere down the line?
Re:Answer me this one.... SunnyFlower: Oh, holy smokes!! NO, NO! I DO NOT want to be with my stbx...I have accepted it's over and feel ready to move on....
I think at one time I had considered wanting to work it out with my stbx, but that was months ago, and he has done so many rotten things to me over this last year I really DO NOT want to be with the person he is today AT ALL.
Re:Answer me this one.... Seraph: I guess the reason I had to ask is that from reading your posts it really doesn't seem like you've closed the books emotionally on your marriage yet. I can say from my own experience that you are probably going to have a difficult time dating until you do. More to the point, anyone dating you is likely to have a difficult time.
Re:Answer me this one.... TiredandScared: Excellent point Ser. thats exactly what I ment by the "mental" aspect
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