Re:This will probably irritate the women Safetykc: HEY!!!!!! Unfair Michael...b**ch becomes pregant dog and bastard stays bastard??
I think bastard should be filtered as jackals....All lying, cheating spouses, male and female are jackals...or heyenas??? hmmm
Both carrion feeders...screw em....Actually, let's not...let's leave that to the OM's and OW's of the world. LOL
Re:This will probably irritate the women admin:
I never knew that cheating gender biased.
There are more then enough MEN and WOMEN that do it.
As for how you label them, I am sure you can come up with more creative names then B!tch and B@st@rd.
How about "disease carrying vermin" or something new and creative.
As for the profanity filter, it's an attempt to keep this place as close to G-rated as possible. I really don't need some angry lawyer chasing me for money because "little Joe" accidently visited the site and was "shocked" by the graphic content.
I am sure there are thousands of good lawyers but it only takes one opportunistic one to close this site. Think about it!
-- Michael (attempting to be the Voice of Reason for the day!)
p.s. what did I call my ex... hmmm, I forget. ;D
Re:This will probably irritate the women justmenow: I actually read that 70% of divorced men vs 20% of divorced women were involved in extra-marital affairs, however I think his original question is why do women claim they are "confused"?
I have my own theories. Men and women seek sex for different reasons (read any psych 101 book about that). Men for physical gratification and women for emotional gratification (of course there are exceptions, so I have to add that little footnote in there to keep from being crucified). "Confusion" is an emotional process - which might explain why women use this as an excuse. Just a theory.
Re:This will probably irritate the women brokenman: Here's my 2 cents.
In my situation I came to the conclusion that my wife was getting her self image puffed up by the guy she eventually slept with. She had to balance 10 years of relatively stable marriage against someone's firery desire to have her. She wanted both so she couldn't decide. Rather than be decisive and figure things out she waffled and wanted someone to tell her what to do. Unfortunately, when I told her to stay she left. When the other man told her to stay she stayed. She was still confused and refused to say she had made up her mind (and perhaps some part of her hadn't) but her actions were telling. So I forced the issue in the direction she had obviously chosen.
So, "I was confused" is just an excuse. It sounds like an answer, but it really isn't. It may pass for an answer to her, but from where you are standing it obviously isn't. I think that if you need to know the "why" behind that shallow excuse then think about it enough to find an answer you are comfortable with. You'll probably be more right than not if you think about it enough.
Re:This will probably irritate the women admin: "I am so confused" should be added to the list of "101 OJar Divorce Lines".
It's right up there with,
"It's not you, it's ME"
"We've GROWN apart"
"I need time to THINK!"
"We were NEVER good together"
"She/He was INSANE"
"I'm NOT EMOTIONALLY READY for commitment"
"I changed my mind about HAVING KIDS"
"I changed my mind about NOT having kids"
"You don't understand me"
"You don't make me feel attractive"
"You and I never agree on ANYTHING"
"I've met someone else..."
Add your own sound-bite to the list.
I guess it always amazed me how anything as complicated as the reasons for a divorce could be stated in such a short phrase.
Read postings on OJar going back a few years and you'll see the same theme over and over again. Sadly!
-- M.
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