Another milestone niceguy: My s2bx came over tonight and we filed out the last of the divorce paperwork. Our court date is less than 2 weeks away. All in all the evening went pretty well. We had dinner together, went for a hike with our dogs and then did the paperwork. It all seems so strange. We are both so friendly to each other. I think we were both a little sadened by the end being so near, but it all seemed so casual. What's up with that. I don't want us to be yelling at each other or hating each other, but how could we both just be so .....???? I can't even find the words.
I'm not sure were I'm going with this post. I just don't feel anything I guess. Shouldn't I feel something?
Re:Another milestone Safetykc: You will feel what you will feel...There is no right or wrong here niceguy.
It could be worse...I had that same meeting with my STBX two nights ago and it was the yelling, hurtful, crying, hating thing...
To much pain for it to be nice. I wish it had been the nothing feeling but there was nothing wrong with what I felt either.
Its a rough time and everyone handles it differently, you may feel nothing now and feel those other things later or you may not.
Hang in there guy...and we are here for you.
Take care,
Safety
Re:Another milestone bamboo: I go through stages with my stbx. One conversation we are arguing and saying things we really don't mean, then the next time we talk it is like we are just friends catching up on each others lives. It is weird but when we are civil to each other and talk like friends would, it makes this whole process a little easier, at least for me. I was devastated at first about this separation, but lately I feel like it is actually a good thing. I now have the freedom to move forward with my life the way I want - without being held back. I guess I have realized that my stbx should have remained a good friend all along - and never should have been my husband.
Like today we went out to lunch together to talk about the divorce & stuff. He felt comfortable enough to tell me about his girlfriend and that he took her home to meet his parents already. I was a little shocked by that - just b/c I feel like I've been replaced already- but a part of me was OK with it. I know that this separation and eventual divorce is the best thing for me and that I can only move up from this point on.
Re:Another milestone Safetykc: You are a stronger girl than me jersey...ummm wait a minute... :o well, you know what i mean...
I know that is what my STBX wanted for us the other night, civil, friends talking...i just couldn't...and yes it did hurt me when she told me she had met and been with someone else since the seperation...not the OM...he is too busy being married with 3 kids I guess... :P :-X
Maybe someday I can get there...not sure I want to but maybe...
Re:Another milestone EZ: Hi niceguy
I think I know what you mean my stbx wife called the other night to ask me to come over and work on her computer. I went and it was just like nothing had ever happened we were lol and talking, our son was in and out lol and talking, I look around and think man its just like a few months back. I say my goodbyes return to my house, sit down and go ? wtf I mean whats up is she just pretending to be friends and if so then how long has she pretended, and if we are still friends and we still can make each other lol and smile then ……….. I cant help but feel used or played
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