"i want to move out" ashamaliedarn: yeah...HE SAID THAT! :o :-\
He came home from playing games with his friends.....and he says that....he says i'm too b!tchy...that i always yell at him...that i never do anything...."the only way i ever felt you cared about me was by you playing with my hair or back and you b!tch about it now." yeah...i never get anything in return....EVER!
So your solution is to move into an apartment couple blocks up the road!? "I'll come on my weekends." WHAT FOR!? "To see Courtleigh" OH...that's nice...yeah, make my life harder cause I'm so f^cking in love with you that I'd walk across fire, so you can see your daughter...but he's knows I'll NEVER EVER let him take her anywhere alone.
"Do you love me?" *me*.....*him* yes...*me...how much?* *him a lot.*
mmhmm...that's why you want to leave?!
I don't want him to stay here if he's not happy...but i don't want him to go away either.............Whatever he wants I guess.....what's the point anymore? I'm always trying to save this relationship...by morning he won't have meant it..but WHY SAY IT IF YOU DON'T MEAN IT!? that's cruel.
*sigh* i give up. i quit my life....someone take it.
Re: "i want to move out" amola: oh for crap's sake woman.......{{{HUGS}}}
you are going to have to sit that boy down and in as non-threatening a way as possible, find out exactly what is up his heiny. and you have to do it soon. otherwise, this is going to go so far that nothing can be salvaged.
trust me. you saw what happened with me and your uncle. i don't want you guys to end up in the same place, and that's what i'm afraid is going to happen.
you guys are so young to be dealing with this kind of crap. your baby is too precious to have to deal with this kind of crap. she can sense it--why do you think she doesn't sleep for poo? she knows that something is up! you and her are so connected that it isn't even funny.....
sit his @$$ down. do it before he goes to work or sometime that he can't whine about being tired. tell him, "b, this is how i feel right now" and lay it out on the line. don't threaten. don't whine. don't beg. just tell him. "this is how i feel." let him think about it for a while (like a day.... ;) )
he's got alot of growing up to do. ALOT. and you know that as well as i do. i'm tired of watching him do this crap to you. i'm tired of him jerking you around. i know you love him (hell, look at my feelings for t...trust me, i know) but YOU DO NOT DESERVE THIS SH!T.
d@mmit if i didn't have the kids tonight i'd be on my way down there to ......... i don't know. kick his butt and give you a hug.
if he wants to leave, let him.
hang in there........you have my numbers........cell's on 24/7......
remind me on saturday and i'll give you my spare key....just in case....
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
amola
Re: "i want to move out" AfterMath: ash,
"Quit your life? NEVER!!!"
I see now that Amola's your kin. Please listen to her! You seem like a smart & wonderful person.
Playing Games w/ Friends? I assume Video Games? Come on! At his age?
Sit him down and present your case just as Amola has described below.
He has got to grow up. Otherwise leave if you can - notice that key Amola mentioned.
Are there children involved?
I hope things work out. Keep posting!
Re: "i want to move out" UPDATED ashamaliedarn: This totally bites...I had this written once, and it was so good...and it wouldn't post..
This morning....things were "normal" i guess you'd say...He slept on the complete opposite side of the bed from me though. I convinced him later in the day to talk to me about this again...and this is what happened.....:(
ME: How can you love me and want to live away from me?
HIM: I don't know. How can I love my mom, and not want to have S*X with her?
ME: It's different. Do you LOVE love me, or you love me cause of Courtleigh?
HIM: That's a trick question. I don't understand.
ME: Are you IN LOVE with me?
HIM: No.
Okay....i start crying..and then I he says, i'm sorry....i say...you can't feel what's not there...if it's not there...then it's not. And all I can do is look down, at OUR Daughter...who's begging to wear MOMMY'S shoes. Somehow it later gets turned to me asking about when he would leave. He had said earlier in the conversation that he told C...the person he's moving with, that he'd wait until the end of the month cause of rent....well...i say..."You're talking July 31st end of the month?" and he says, "i don't know maybe next month."
Whoa..wait..[glow=red,2,300"> YOU'RE GONNA TELL ME YOUR NOT IN LOVE WITH ME AND EPECT ME TO LIVE WITH YOU FOR THE NEXT MONTH!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? >:([/glow"> okay...sure...i MIGHT be able to handle this.... DOUBTFUL..but might...
You know....i call my mom....she's supposed to make it all better? HA! She doesn't help at all.....In fact...in my eyes...she made it worse. but that's just me...So oh well. I need a cigarette...but I don't have any. :(
meh...i forgot everything I wrote earlier...but it was great...and perfect and so like me...*sigh* oh well.
I just wanna crawl into a corner and cry all night. But i have a ONE YEAR OLD to care for....who loves and needs me...at least someone does.
Re: "i want to move out" amola: gdmfcssob!!!!!!!!!!!
ash....honey....baby....
dammit i don't even know what to say right now....and i'm trapped here at work until midnight. hon, what do you want to do? seriously, i know that this is very raw right now and you probably don't want to think about what to do.
do you want me to come and get you and baby? i can be there by about 12:45......seriously.....
and so help me god, if i find out that you're smoking......grrrrrrrrrr......
let me know what you want me to do, babe.....
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