Re: my wife says she is not sure if she ever turly had a "spark" for me. joe95: I believe both of you are right her newfound independance is really confusing her right now, but it is really hard to sit back and watch. I really believe she loves me more than she realizes. I can look back at our marriage and see too many happy times that I know were true love. I will admit I am one who thinks marriage is forever and all you have to do is love, communciate and work things out. This may be a little outdated and I could be wrong.
I have taken the back seat to the job, and I believe that within the past few months she has just started to realize how many possibilities there are out there. I hope this is just confusion, but I also hope that I am not being crazy by just trying to hold on to something that was never there.
Re: my wife says she is not sure if she ever turly had a "spark" for me. hudson: joe, I really recommend that you and your wife take some serious time to get a dialogue going concerning these issue. You two must talk about this stuff! We can offer you support here but you really need to get a better idea of what's going on with your wife and what you two can do to get through this.
I think your wife can provide for you many of the answers you are looking for. Just make sure you listen closely.
Re: my wife says she is not sure if she ever turly had a "spark" for me. Samarra: No...you don't have outdated ideas about marriage...they're great...I only wish more people took their vows this seriously.
I do agree with blazin'...try to talk with your wife about how she's feeling.
I don't think your marriage is too far gone...I definitely think it's worth fighting for.
Re: my wife says she is not sure if she ever turly had a "spark" for me. joe95: We have had some very serious conversations about this. I think she really thinks that she does not have a spark for me. However, she tells me that I am the best thing that ever happened to her. I believe with her childhood, this independance has really showed her some freedom that she has never felt before. I really wish she could figure this out before we do some real serious damage. I want to wait it out, but I also do not want to hold her back if it is truly what she wants. In our discussions, we both decided that we truly have something unique, so we will not give up on the marriage sooon. But she also told me that she does not see her feelings changing. I did mention counseling and she told me she would do whatever I wanted. This makes me believe that she really feels guilty about what is happpening to me. This also makes me believe that she may really believe that we do not need to be married.
Re: my wife says she is not sure if she ever turly had a "spark" for me. joe95: I am not going to quit working on our marriage and I have already set up a counseling session. I just need advice from other who have been through this situation. I will have to admit I am an optimist and feel if we can get through this we can have a stronger connection. I just don't know how far I need to push her to resolve this situation with me.
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