Lost wicket: I am utterly lost and alone and have no idea what to do.
My marriage has always been volitale, we are very dramatic, but there was never any doubt that we loved each other. The past year things have become impossible. I no longer know what he's thinking and the fighting has become increasingly vicious. I've told him over and over that I'd like a divorce, mentally and physically I can no longer deal with it. He always says things will change, but after a few days things are back as they were.
He's always been very loving, but things have changed over the past few years, now I almost have to beg for attention. I've had a hint or two that he's possibly had an affair.
I love him, so much that it hurts, but I just can't do this anymore. I have terrible stomach problems from all the stress along with other medical problems that are exacerbated by all the fighting.
That is by no means the whole story, but I don't want to bore you to death. I do have my own part in this, I am a bit of a cold fish and have always had trouble showing affection, but I have learned over the years, just when I cross over he changes. I also have a huge temper and can fly off over nothing.
I don't know what to do, my heart is breaking.....
Re: Lost Lome: Welcome and hugs
It is hard now...just focus on yourself right now.
Look at surviving the seconds, hours, days.....find some reason to be happy with each.
It will be hard, but seperate from the situation for a bit to gain perspective....
think what you want and find a good support system ....
good luck
Re: Lost insomnia: welcome... i know you are hurting so i am going to send you a hug!!!
Re: Lost qualt: I can only offer my perspective on this and it may or may not work for you but here it goes. I personnally dont think you should not seperate physically. I am only 23 but it has been my experience in life that you cannot change people with words, usually what happens with thst is the person you want to change only stays the same to spite you for trying to control them. Instead take authority over the person you have the power to change, yourself. Tell him to change with your actions not your words. of course i dont mean never discuss your problems, but i mean change yourself into who you want him to be. do things to show him you love him even if at the time you hate him, in fact especially at those times. Give of yourself, not that you havent been im sure you have, but instead of arguing realize that if he really loves you it is himself that he is angry with. I know that most of the times i have been mad at my wife was because of something i did not like about me and it is easier to blame your spouse for your faults than it is to accept respondsibility. but if he sees you still love him even when he treats you like crap, and if he realy loves you im confident that just like me he will realize that he has been neglecting you and taking you for granted. I wish i had only realized this before it was to late and i hope you will give him more time to figure this out also, if for no other reason than to salvage the passion i know you once shared and maybe still do, but please dont give up on him i know he is probably being a selfish pig but if you guys truly love eachother he will come to his senses. I hope.
