Re: Should be a random thought but survey instead..... Blueyes424: I got into a fight with my mom and moved out 6 weeks before the wedding and moved in with him........
I don't think that things would have been different if we'd have waited, although, after living with him for a while, I really think we should have lived together LONGER BEFORE the wedding.
If I ever get to the point of an extremely serious relationship again, I will want to live with the person for at the very least 6 months before marriage....might be wrong, might not, but it's what I want to do.
Re: Should be a random thought but survey instead..... AloneandCold: We lived together and are now divorced but it really didn't effect the divorce at all.
also this kind of survey is tainted because we are all divorce so you don't get the other side of the spectrum. :)
Re: Should be a random thought but survey instead..... allmixedup: We lived together for about a year and 8 months before we got married. I would have to think it is good to live together before marriage. How many times have you heard of people moving in together and then they can't stand each other. I think it is good to get to know the other person's habits and such before hand. Then you can find out if you really want to take that next step. Better than being married first just to find out that your spouse is impossible to live with.
Re: Should be a random thought but survey instead..... LostTeacher: dated for 8 years
moved in together 1 week before the wedding.
lasted 2 1/2 years
don't know if it would have made a difference. he has said to me that we should have lived together for a while after we got engaged before getting married...but i don't think it would have made a difference.
Re: Should be a random thought but survey instead..... sourpuss: dated 1 year, lived together 8, married 8, separated 5 months now.
i don't think it makes any difference, personally, but i read an article once regarding a study that said there was a lower divorce rate among couples who did not cohabitate first.
the opinion of the study author was that the lower rate had more to do with the attitude of the people involved than the roof over their heads.
couples who felt that living together before marriage was bad (or a sin) tended to be of a "marriage is fovever, unbreakable bond, death is preferable to divorce" mindset. couples who lived together before marriage were more on the "if it doesn't work out, we can always get divorced, it's supposed to be forever, but these things happen" side.
so it wasn't the living together that was the problem, it was the idea behind whether you should or not that seemed to make the difference.
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