Re: Should be a random thought but survey instead..... tyrogers: LMAO @ Cowboy!!! I am a firm believer in the "try it before you buy it" as well. ;) I would love to be living with/shackin' up/living in sin with Bubba ... alas, the courts have us tangled up and separated for a while. Oh well, what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger!
BBH
Re: Should be a random thought but survey instead..... Suddenly Single: "try it before you buy it" that is awesome. You guys crack me up and Bubba be afraid....... be very afraid!!!!!
SS ;D
Re: Should be a random thought but survey instead..... Lome: I sometimes wonder if living together would have made a difference...
We both went from mommas' houses to being married....only real problem was that at my home...I ran the house hold (mom worked...so I was like my mom's "wife") and my husband was still being taken care of by his momma....he never had that "single male time"
Re: Should be a random thought but survey instead..... teacherwriterguy: Ex and I lived together for 2 years before marriage.
I don't think that contributed to the divorce however - well, let me rephrase that. I think it impacted it in a few ways.
By the time I proposed, we'd been living together for a year and the commitment level, even without marriage, was very high for me. In a way, I was maybe less able to objectively see the red flags of marrying her because I was already invested in living with her.
On the other hand, had we been living apart, I'm not sure that I would have known her as well as I did by living her, and I might not have seen those red flags anyway.
Regardless, I wasn't any less likely to stick with the marriage because we lived together first. My commitment level was as high, if not higher, than normal because we co-habitated.
As for her perspective on it, can't really comment.
I think it would have been good for her to have been truly independent and self-sufficient, living on her own successfully, before we got married. But that was a core issue for us leading to divorce, the idea that she never quite got to the point of being able to be independent and take care of herself.
twg
Re: Should be a random thought but survey instead..... amola: let's see............it was 1999..........
got pregnant in february
engaged in march
moved in together in may
married in august
so we lived together for what? 3 months?
not sure what impact it had......i think it actually scared me to the point that i thought about cancelling the wedding, but getting married was what we were "supposed to do" and i went through with it. 5 years and 3 kids later, here i am, divorced.
should have listened to the gut..........
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