stages of a breakup? abc123: its almost a year and im at a point where im kind of hurt, but i just feel lonely more then anything.
how long before im totalyl secure being by myself like everyone keeps telling me ill feel?
Re: stages of a breakup? HopelessGeek: There is no way to tell. I sometimes think I am over things only for them to come back again. I guess it will happen when you let it more than anything else. But that is a tall order.
Re: stages of a breakup? riversandlakes:
it is a roll o coaster ride. you can pick anyone here and go through their posts and see for yourself how the posts reflect this fact :-\
let time do its healing, buddy. no amount of rushing can get you there any faster - on the contrary, instead, i think.
though you'll need to heal. i'm so much better now (90%?) with the assistance of no-contact. She wanted friendship and to "contact me anytime". Now I know it was all for her selfish benefit. How did my princess ever was such a selfish person?
Does anyone know?
Re: stages of a breakup? hardheaded: I wish I could give you a definite answer
I know I have wanted one and i am still asking how long this damn process takes. If it gives you any consultation I was numb for the first two years after my divorce never grieving for the loss I just went along with the daily routines of life. There was anger about the situation but until about a week ago it was the first time I have ever shown sadness and grief about the situation. Personally I am glad because I am finally feeling like I have made progress to finding myself again. It takes time so rather than beat yourself up about it learn to identify your emotions and who you are. Remember a fine wine becomes better with time and so will you.
Hardheaded
Re: stages of a breakup? LostTeacher: i think that you will continue to go through stages as long as you still have feelings for that person. even if you don't think you have the feelings, there might be an event or a person or something that happens that brings you back to that place.
i am at almost 9 months, and i still have moments. just had the first anniversary without him...so a bit of a downspin. but i am handling it a lot better than i did christmas, when the seperation was so fresh. even better than the birthdays.
it gets easier, it gets different, but it doesn't go away. i think i will know when it is finally starting to go away when i don't think about him for an entire day.
we were together for my entire adult life, so it's still very hard for me to picture my life without him. but thinking about him with his OW sure does help! :P
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