Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? LoveFool: Besides finding out about any STDs, would you want to know everything about your significant other's sexual past (i.e. number of sexual partners)?
I have been struggling with this for a while. I am currently in a wonderful relationship with a women whom I have fallen in love with. In the beginning of our relationship, when we became intimate, I really didnt care about her sexual history because I had not developed any strong feelings. Now, that I am in Love with her, I sometimes wonder how many guys she has been with? Has she had more sexual partners than me? I am not sure why this even matters. I am curious to know, but also DONT want to know. The thought of another man having sex with the woman I Love, even in the past, bothers me. Maybe this all stems from the fact that my ex-wife cheated on me.....
So what are your thoughts? Do I have a twisted mind? Would you want to know everthing about your SO's past? Someone please tell me how to get these thoughts out of my head.
Thanks.
Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? tyrogers: Nope. As Bubba told me once, it doesn't matter how many were there before me (once you know that person is "clean"), as long as I am the last.
BBH
Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? jason_stl: Watch Chasing Amy then ask yourself the question again.
There is nothing positive that can come out of a conversation like this with a gf. Absolutely nothing. You do risk the chance of the conversation becoming one of those driving nails that ends the relationship. Best just not to ask and be happy.
Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? jillieb44: No.
Jillie
Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? Suddenly Single: umm. yea don't recommend it. The first guy I had this conversation with lied about how many to make it more than it was...I found out and was just upset that he felt he had to lie. I HATE and DESPISE being lied to about anything so yea...that was a good fight.
The second guy I had this conversation with...well I didn't want to know because again..the thought...UGH and then there was some miscommunication about what our definitions of sex were and yeah...that led to a mess.
They say curiousity killed the cat for a reason. You know a knife will cut you if you slice it across your arm...not exactly sure how it will feel...but you KNOW it will hurt.
Best to try to let the curiousity lie.
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