Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? timetobefree: Wow, I, too, thought I would be in the majority here, but yes, I want to know. It DOES matter to me. I have always been open with others, and they have with me. I really didn't realize partners DIDN'T talk about this stuff. I don't really care what the number is, but the openness is VERY important to me. For T and I, it has led to many wonderful discussions about our pasts, our past relationships, and where we are today.
As to Bubba's question, yes, I would want to know about those crazy orgies. Not to judge, but I want to know everything about my partner if I am in a serious relationship. If they didn't tell me and it came out later, I would wonder why it needed to be kept secret. If you have really moved on from such behavior, wouldn't you want to share that with the one person in your life who really loves and accepts you? Who better to share it with?
Wow, I am just sitting here kinda shocked that people aren't totally open and honest with their lovers/future spouses about their pasts. I don't even know what else to say!
Amy ;D
Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? Bubba: Well that is the kicker here TWG. As you said you tend to end up with people who usually only sex while in committed relationships. So, let's saw you are our buddy "LoveFool", and you have fallen for this amazing woman. Or better yet, let's say for argument sake, for I Know this is not true at ALL, but for arguement sake, let's say your new woman (who is lovely by the way) told you that she had a "wild" past. What would you do? You love this woman. You are a perfect fit, but she suddenly tells you things she didnt in the beginning. Would you break off the relationship?
I guess that is how I see LoveFool's situation. If he asks, and gets an answer he doesn't like, is he going to break it off with this woman he has fallen for? Never ask a question like that if you cannot handle the worse possible answer. In my experience the answer doesn't change my feelings, nor does is change who the woman is, so I therefore don't ask. Ignorance can be bliss. The past is the past, and there is nothing that can change it. Just be happy your the last and forget the rest.
Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? tyrogers: This is so totally breaking off into another subject, but I agree somewhat with you TWG but not totally. My past is scattered with many many things/people/actions that I never want to be reminded of. I have changed totally and would not want Bubba to hold any of my past against me (thank God he doesn't). Then again, I have come to realize why I did the things I have done, the effect that my family life had on my decisions at that time, etc. I just don't think you should hold someone's past against them. If they say they have changed, believe them if they have shown you this. It's just like falling in love, you take a blind leap and hope it all works out. Same way with the blind faith in believing your partner has changed. You hope that they have. Does that make sense? I hope so. Kind of hard to explain.
BBH
Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? timetobefree: [quote author=Bubba's Bama Hottie FOREVER link=topic=15537.msg131042#msg131042 date=1121962998">
My past is scattered with many many things/people/actions that I never want to be reminded of. I have changed totally and would not want Bubba to hold any of my past against me (thank God he doesn't). [/quote">
Hey BBH, I guess I am confused. Does Bubba know or not know about your past? From what I read of your posts, you don't think it is important to tell your partner, but yet it sounds like you have. Just curious!
Amy ;D
Re: Do you want full disclosure about your SO's sexual past? tyrogers: ;) Didn't have to tell him. He figures out everything about me. Trust me, he knows me to my CORE.
BBH
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