my jerry springer story slickwilly: Well this will be a little long but hey its gotta be told started 5 years ago my stbxw wanted to seperate for awhile she needed to work on somethings found there had been om but that was over than there was om she hide from me well she got pregnant by him we got back together i have raised my little girl whos 3 now as my own well about a year into that reconcilation she left again for my youngest sperm donor she lived with him a year and she got really sick so long story short she asked me to take care of her during her rehab and we got back together again that was dec of 2004 well dec 2005 she meet this guy they had been seeing each other we i called her out 1st of march i filed for divorce in march and battle everyday with her we dont live together and i know i've tried everything i can to make this work whether is fear of failure plus i took my vows very seriously i still hate whats happening seems like you take 3 steps forward then 4 back i have 3 kids two that are mine and one that i might not be the father but shes is a daddies girl for sure im so lucky to have her we live in a nice small town nice sub division got the mini-van and the lab and she has thrown me into this with her drinking and partying and lifestyle change so much has happened to her all at once i cant even explain it all in one post im just venting between here and my therapist everyone gets a work out
Re: my jerry springer story microtech1: Hey slickwilly I am sorry you have to go through this. From the sound of things you have given this woman every chance in the world to straighten up. She doesn't want to and I think you should cut your losses and get rid of her. I mean she left to live with someone else for a year??? Wow you have been there to rescue her for years and what is the repayment you get. A wife that runs around and sleeps with multiple men. For your own safety you need to get rid of her. For the ones you know about how many others has there been. From what you have said I would tend to think that is a good possibility. I hope things start to get better for you soon. Keep venting we can take here.
Re: my jerry springer story slickwilly: I know your right but you go through life with your head and your heart in two different places but the thing is as i read in another post you love someone from years ago who doesnt exist anymore because the new person doesnt change but i do forgive her not for her but for me and you work on things one day at a time for all the wrongs they do it still hurts and i think mine doesnt want me any closer then 2 feet but no father than 5 feet.
Re: my jerry springer story microtech1: It is still going to hurt that's for sure. Only you can make the decision as to how much you will forgive and much you are willing to work on it. I sense that you are very unhappy with the disrespect she showed you desperately would like to see her change. However, that is up to her! as much as we want people to change it is their decision to do so.
As for the wanting you there but not to close you are right. She wants the freedom to do whatever she wants but doesn't want to end up alone. You have always been there for her and she knows that. When do you stand up and say hey this makes me feel like crap! She will continue to do these things to you until you value yourself enough to say I don't deserve this treatment. I know you love her and it makes it hard but is she the kind of woman you want to love? You deserve better than a wife that runs around and doesn't respect you. Once you see that your head will lead you even though your heart still aches!
Re: my jerry springer story slickwilly: you hit the nail right on the head i think why is cheating so disrespectful to the other person doesnt matter man or woman the decision of another affects so many people but its really a selfish act not thinking about the many people it will affect in good and bad ways
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