Re:Holiday Crisis mv2: Its inevitable that someone (probably more than one person) will ask you how is your spouse. It happened to me last year at the Christmas party. As we had been separated for over 6 months, I was surprised how many people didn't know - mostly spouses!
This is a good time to hold your head up and be happy that everyone will now "know". Be prepared for the question, and it won't have any sting when it comes.
Good luck, and most of all, enjoy yourself! You never know who might be there that finds you attarctive and interesting!!
Re:Holiday Crisis brynne: Thanks everyone !
I am going to take the advice of the majority & just say we are divorcing or we are divorced, if it's final by then. I work for my dad's company - (he used to be the owner) so a lot of people & their spouse's have known me for a long time (some since I was a teenager) & remember our wedding. I don't think the majority know b/c the has all blown up in the last 2 months.
The co-workers that I work w/ daily know so maybe I'll let them put out the word before the party & that will take care of the majority of the questions.
Fortunately, there are others people going w/out dates, so I guess I won't wear the big DL on my forehead afterall - aka Divorced Loser ! Just kidding, trying to make some light humor of the situation :)
Hope
Re:Holiday Crisis justmenow: You are also under no obligation to explain anything to anyone. It's personal, private business and you can simply say - "I'm not ready to discuss it right now." Most people will understand.
Re:Holiday Crisis grober: Hope,
I found that honesty is the best policy. Telling people that you're divorced isn't easy, but it is something you're going to have to get used to. I'm coming up on the 1 year mark from the day my divorce was final and for the most part it is doesn't bother me anymore.
I think it is great that you're going solo to social functions. Hope you have fun!
Re:Holiday Crisis brynne: Thanks everyone,
FoundMe: I'm not thrilled about going to social functions alone that's for sure ! But that would cause more rumors if I brought someone, even a friend ! Not what I need right now...already feel like I'm living in a soap opera !
But yes, it takes guts to go alone, I thought about just not going but I shouldn't miss out on life b/c of a divorce.
Hope
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