destroyed whatnow: Hello to whomever reads this post . i am new to the site and have been reading many of the stories of people who are down and out and it feels good that im not alone....here is my story......i was dating a girl for 6 years and everything was great until 6 months ago when i was informed she was messing around....furious i broke up with her and ran to the 1st girl i could find and took her out on a date. Not to sleep with her ( which i could have ) but to get seen with a girl to make my ( cheating g/f ) jealous.. WHAT A MISTAKE THAT WAS.....it turned out it was all a lie and she wasnt cheating..the girl who lied said she was just mad at my g/f...im like you stupid b!tch you couldve cost us are relationship.Were not in high school i am 27 she is 29. Well sure enough it got back to her i was out with another girl before i had to chance to tell her myself and it was hell. She is convinced i slept with the girl and i DID NOT...We were apart for 3 weeks when she finally called and wanted to talk.We got back together and it has been the best 5 months of my life...The whole thing really brought us closer and rekindled are love. Well a month ago while on vacation the girl i took out decided she would get some payback. ( payback for 1 date ..yea i used her but i didnt sleep with her ya know ) anyway she created a story to my g/fs friends...and parents that we was still seeing each other on the side. When we returned from our getaway the sh!t hit the fan. My g/f cussed me and told me to go on...she will not be done this way. Furious with the lies i called the girl and she never answered. I called her a dozen times. Well she kept my calls to her cell on her phone and showed my g/f. That was it ...my g.f is convinved i was having an affair....3 weeks later she packed her bags and moved in with her family 700 miles away......i am DESTROYED......i can hardly breath at times....i cry myself to sleep...and already lost a damn good job .....the whole 9 yards......i call her crying and begging and she will talk to me for a bit...get irritated...and tell me not to call she is moving on. She said men are the last thing on her mind she is moving on . I wasnt the best person in the relationshiop and i couldve showed her more and done more.....im thinking if i move to the new city she is in....establish myself and make changes...and show her once and for all i DO NOT want this other girl ( she said she would leave so me and the other girl wouldnt have to hide )...will it prove my love to her ? Or should i stay where im at and concentrate on my new job that i hate. She also has a 7 year old daughter who although isnt mine i adore and consider her mine....please anybody give me some suggestions ....thank you
Re: destroyed whatnext: I'm not sure -- I wish somebody with more experience was posting first, but I liked your name, so...
I can totally identify with the lack of breathing, and the crying to sleep. Don't force anything. Don't move. Keep your job for now, you have enough else going on.
Re: destroyed AfterMath: whatnow,
Sounds like she cheated first, thus your reaction with the rebound date is, while not the best of moves, understandable.
I would not suggest following your GF right now. Both of you must have significant trust issues, and I think you'll need some time apart. Keep up regular phone contact if possible - Sounds like you've got a great relationship with your GF's Daughter, and she must be missing you.
Be kind, feel it out, and take it slow.
Re: destroyed whatnext: AM,
It was hard to figure out, but she didn't cheat -- it was a rumor...
Re: destroyed insomnia: i wouldn't move out there. i know you would move heaven and earth to be with her but dont uproot yourself. give her the space she needs because right now she is angry and she needs time to get over the anger.
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