19 year old needs divorce from Military Husband ASAP Interpol: Hi all. Here's a little bit of my story.
I'm 19 years old, and currently married, my husband is 24. My husband and I were together for 4 years, before he decided to join the Army. Before he left for Basic Training, we decided to get married.
Months go by, and we fall out of contact. But it's not like were were ever the greatest couple to begin with. I am still kicking myself for marrying him. He was abusive, both physically and mentally, and was and is cheating on me.
On Valentine's day we got into an argument over the phone, when the subject of a divorce was brought up. I was sad about it at first, but now I really need to get him out of my life. He kept saying that he would divorce me when he comes home for leave (he's currently deployed)
He comes home for leave, and does nothing to help me with getting this divorce. He avoided me when I tried to get ahold of him, and I didn't get to see him once. No doubt our marriage is irretrievably broken, the whole relationship was from day one. He's going to be forever trying to string me along.
I also discovered an online journal of his, where he speaks of how he's so "glad" that he "got rid" of me, and that he should've listened to all of his friends sooner when they told him to ditch me, and that I was nothing but a nuisance from the start. He said he was never in love with me, and never happy. He bragged about buying expensive gifts for other girls, and how he loves them and misses them, and how he's so excited to see these other women when he gets back to the states. If he supposedly "got rid" of me, how come he couldn't man up and show his face to me to divorce me? Argh! I'm so frustrated.
I know this is something I have to do on my own, because he won't be much help, so I just need some advice. I bought an Arizona Divorce Kit book which comes with all the forms needed. What if he doesn't sign the forms? Will the divorce go through anyways? I hope so. Please help! What do I do?
Re: 19 year old needs divorce from Military Husband ASAP freovir: Interpol (great name and band by the way),
First, Can you afford an attorney? If so, contact one. If not do an internet search with key words like "do it yourself divorce" and the state you live in. I know in michigan you can buy a 35 dollar book with all the required paperwork.
Second, welcome to ojar. You are not alone.
Third, read my "that's bullshwit" vent http://ojar.com/boards/index.php/topic,15340.0.html but i don't think you need it actually.
--freovir
Re: 19 year old needs divorce from Military Husband ASAP freovir: i am unfamiliar with the military, but if they will do it, then yes take advantage. actually, it might be a good thing if it drags on since you get medical and all from him, right?
--freovir
Re: 19 year old needs divorce from Military Husband ASAP sparks: You can get divorced if he is deployed. Im doing it. But if he doesnt want to do anything about it you just have to wait. Not a big deal. Life insurance just went up to $400,000. You can go to JAG but I am from Arizona and if you go to Luke, they have limited service. I know a paralegal that has walked me through my divorce with children. Let me know if you want her number.
Re: 19 year old needs divorce from Military Husband ASAP Interpol: Thanks for your replies, Frideon, Spark and freovir (Good music taste!)
Spark - I bought an Arizona Divorce Kit, will I be able to still divorce my deployed "husband"? It says that a military divorce is possible, I just need to fill out Form 500 or such.
If possible I would like to get this divorce overwith and out of the way. I feel like a fool still being married to him, while he is out sending stupid flowers and writing dumb love letters to every girl who looks his way. Pathetic.
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