When to start dating? JillR: Ok, I am not even divorced yet but have been seperated from my ex off & on for a couple of years.
I want so badly to find someone to just hang out with, have fun, etc., but I think that I may scare off men b/c I have 2 children.
So when was everyone ready?
Re: When to start dating? freovir: JillR,
I think this will vary depending on the person and the situation. I have been seperated since February and while I am ready to meet people of the female persuasion, I do not believe I am capable of providing what someone who is deserving of me deserves. I don't know when that will happen. I suspect it will hit me over the head like an anvil in a road runner cartoon. However, just because I am not looking for romance doesn't mean I don't "date." I go out with people to get to know them and interact with someone over the age of 8. I see nothing wrong with being "friends."
As far as scaring men off due to your kids. Maybe, but you have two kids and I wouldn't recommend pursuing anyone who will be scared off by them unless you plan on selling them into slavery in some third world country like Canada when the relationship gets serious.
Good luck,
--freovir
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Re: When to start dating? LostTeacher: it's taken me 9 months of seperation...but i think i could actually try to do it. actually had a crush on someone for the first time.....so a step in the right direction.
don't really have any dating prospects yet....but at least now my eyes are a little open!
Re: When to start dating? tyrogers: You go LT! Go get him! ;)
I did not scare off Bubba and I have 2 children....and two exes.....and Bubba has a child.......
Damn. We will be the Brady Bunch. LOL
I did not wait long at all after my divorce. Hey, I'm not getting any younger and I was not going to sit around and mope over a cheater! ;)
It will be different for everyone. When you are ready, you will know.
BBH
Re: When to start dating? teacherwriterguy: I didn't know that I was ready until I found the right person - if that makes any sense?
I guess you look at milestones.
-Can you say that you are done with the old relationship on a practical level, or are you still fighting for it?
-Do you think of yourself as a 'single' person or as a married person who is separated?
-Do you generally feel relatively satisfied with the rest of life to the point that you aren't going to drown a new potential partner in emotional baggage? In other words, is a new person going to 'fix' a bad life? Or are they going to come in and enhance a relatively happy life?
The technical answer would be that I separated in December and was beginning the first steps of dating again in April.
twg
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