Re: Totally Lost Bubby: You've been married to her--only you know this situation. So, do you think she is telling the truth? Or, do you think she is just trying to come up with a "reason" for her emotional departure? Is the physical contact the "issue" or just a "topic"? Does that make sense? I've often argued over "topics" rather than face the bigger "issue."
Re: Totally Lost brokenhearted: At first I thought it was maybe and excuse but after talking to her mother and finding out that she left her first husband for the same thing. She had no idea about her mom leaving her dad for that same reason. It can be a mixture of things I guess but at least she is willing to go to counselling. I asked her if we should even bother and she was very insistant we try. After 20 years of being together this is still a shock to me and my kids but at least she is willing I just don't know if we can overcome her physical diss-atraction, if there is such a word, for me. I guess what makes it worse is that she was the first woman I ever truly loved and believe it or not the very first woman I had ever made love to. Maybe that makes it even worse.
Re: Totally Lost Bubby: A good friend of mine is leaving her husband of 10+ years for the same thing right now. She says that he has never been physically attracted to him and that she's met someone who is the love of her life.
I just keep thinking in regard to her situation that love is so much more than physical attraction. It seems more like a mutual respect more than physical attraction. What about the respect he shows her daily by being a loving and loyal husband? I know physical affection is important in a relationship but I don't think it is paramount.
Maybe your wife will see that after going to counseling? See how there is much more to your relationship than just the physical. That the respect you're showing her by working so hard is more important and meaningful.
Re: Totally Lost brokenhearted: I really hope so, but it is definatly hard to be optimistic, specially when you are a pessimist like me. ;D
