Re: doubts on wedding day? toughgirl1029: My first wedding I didn't really have many doubts--my parents did though!
Wedding #2---definatly had doubts. Just weeks prior to my marriage I was trying to find a way out of the relationship. Then Uncle Sam butted in and decided to send him to Iraq for 18 months. I didn't know what to do. IF anything would have happened to him, I'd be out of everything--his ex-wife had more claim on things than I did. We had custody of his kids, I had quit my job over a year before to stay home and babysit-therefore, no insurance. I decided to do "the right thing" and agreed to be married to protect everyone. I made a vow standing there in the courthouse that no matter what, I was going to make this work--well....the emotional issues that were between us grew with the mileage between us....
IF there would be another wedding..like my sister stated....I will analyze every single thought, doubt, action etc before it happens. And I've learned--go with your gut--if you are doubting yourself...there must be a reason somewhere.
I know I'm not going thru this again!
Re: doubts on wedding day? Suddenly Single: I agree with ISO's post and part of Sherry's (the hairdresser part exactly!)
Planning my wedding I was very calm - had a no frills kind of day. No bridesmaids - luncheon even the honeymoon was bland and boring - we went camping.
I had started dating him 3 years prior and I never had the spark, the excitment or anything with him. I had dated a guy for over 4 years a year or so prior to meeting my ex and at the time I thought he had been the love of my life so I thought that it wasn't going to be like it was with my H because I'd already had that and this is how it is when you are older and stuff.
We never fought and he treated me very well so there was no reason to break up. I think I liked his group of friends more than him to be honest.
Anyway - the night before the wedding I wasn't all giddy or anything - just there. I watched Freeway with Kiefer Sutherland - crazy arse movie to watch the night before youget married.
He was so nervous the day of the wedding and cried when i got up to the front and I just thought "what is he crying for?" I dont' know......signs..all the signs.......
I think I did it because we had dated 3 years and things were good at the time and just no reason to say no. Of course looking back and realizing how much I should have felt on that day - well hindsight is 20/20.
My mom was in her 2nd marriage and she had learned so much from her firstl....I swear deep down I always knew I'd get a divorce to get to my 2nd more wonderful husband.
