When does it stop hurting? wstcstmama: First I want to say I was hesitant to post here but so far have met 2 great people!!! That helps so much.
Anyway, I pretty fresh into this but was wondering when the pain will ease some. It had before after a few months but he came back around and hurt me 100 times more than he did before. So now he is gone for good, and so I want to start healing but need to feel like there is light at the end of the tunnel ya know.
Re: When does it stop hurting? fcard05: wstcstmama,
i can't say when it will stop hurting because my hurting has really just started. all i can say is that I have noticed my pain decrease as i have started doing more things that mean something to me. for years i lived my life for my wife, giving up things that meant something to me, for the better interest of our family, or so i thought. but now that i'm alone i realize i have no choice but to live life for myself and that means taking back the things that i held dear and either forgot about or put on the shelf. so i guess my suggestion, for what it's worth, is to focus on you and the things you love. not that you'll forget the pain but it will take your mind off of it for periods of time and the intensity of the pain, at least for me, will gradually decrease.
hang in there, this is a great place to talk things out, and get rid of some of the pain and loneliness,
Re: When does it stop hurting? riversandlakes:
Time, is the rum of all things.
Only time can ease the pain. And coupled with the greatest gift for all mankind - the gift to forget, i think that's how we live again after such intimate betrayal.
there IS light at the end of the tunnel, wst.
Re: When does it stop hurting? wstcstmama: I agree but how do you forget only the bad things? I cant help but reflect on times when were so happy, and it all hurts again.
Re: When does it stop hurting? riversandlakes:
no wst, not selective memory loss. time can make you forget all - both good and bad...
perhaps never completely, for you shall remember the good and bad moments still...
i am, six months after, still with that.
such is the deal.
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