Re: met a player hudson: good point smiley,
I suppose a player could use his admission as an attempt to deflect attention from the fact that he is a player, thus setting up his trap for you to fall into. But I really doubt most players are that intelligent. And I'd hope that a gal would have her antenas up enough to sense when a trap is being set. That's the advantage of proceeding slowly, you can see better what is unfolding before you.
As to smiley's comment about being broken, I'm mean, who isn't? Really? I have yet to meet a single individual that functions perfectly, who doesn't have flaws in their character, that hasn't been hurt, that hasn't been lied to, that is always honest, that isn't sometimes selfish. We are all broken, some a lot, some a little. And no person is impervious to hurt, and no person in without the ability to hurt others.
So every time we meet someone new and begin to form a relationship, we take a risk. Life is all about risk, choices are all about taking risks.
Sorry if I hijacked a little.
Re: met a player Smiley17: [quote author=blazin'heart link=topic=15598.msg132767#msg132767 date=1122228784">
As to smiley's comment about being broken, I'm mean, who isn't? Really? I have yet to meet a single individual that functions perfectly, who doesn't have flaws in their character, that hasn't been hurt, that hasn't been lied to, that is always honest, that isn't sometimes selfish. We are all broken, some a lot, some a little. And no person is impervious to hurt, and no person in without the ability to hurt others.
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I meant the ones who are freshly broken, confused, and want to use you to make it better until they are done with you. Those are the ones who hurt the most and may not even know it. They just want to feel better without regard to the person they are hurting. Selfish or not, it still hurts.
Just tread carefully and post here often. You'll get the support you need.
Re: met a player kfc75: I have a good friend who is not a player, but not into anything serious, I have seen him in action, he is completely up front about what he wants.. to have some fun, and thats about it. He is smart and funny, and I think the fact that he tells the girls that all he wants is some fun, it makes them want him more, and will fall over themselfs to get it, giving him all he wants in the end.
So, just watch out, by him being up front he is a player, hes making you want him more, its how it works.
Re: met a player teacherwriterguy: [quote"> The best dating advice I ever got from someone was People tell you who they are and what problems you will have with them in the first three dates. Listen.[/quote">
I keep reading that one over and over. I wish I'd known it way back when. That is exceptionally well worded and thought provoking. Whoever gave it to you was a good friend!
*twg goes off to ponder*
twg
Re: met a player A25: awesome replies, thanks all!
no I will not get my hopes up w/ this guy, however I'm not gonna completely run. I think he could turn out to be a good friend, so I'm going to spend more time to get to know him. i will tread with caution however...so this wknd I'm hanging out with him and some friends and we will see what happens. But I have a date on Sunday with another guy i also like (a quieter, more reserved type, possibly a player too but not self-proclaimed at least!). So hmm 2 in 1 wknd - maybe now I'm the player! haha...see I think that's possibly all he meant, that he was dating around and not looking for anything serious off the bat. B/c just last month, he hooked up with this girl a few times who totally latched on right away and thought they were dating even though nothing was ever discussed/established. After realizing this, he broke it off. So I think he just wanted to avoid repeating that scenario! So i'm not expecting anything major to come of this whatsoever, but it is fun, and I'll see what happens with him...and I'll keep y'all posted!
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