Re: bad start to weekend... gulfcoast: looks like great advice...
I ditto christy
Re: bad start to weekend... little_sparrow: Be like the cat that fell off the fence. Act like nothing happened and go about your business as usual.
I agree with Christy in the sense that you shouldn't worry about the ex. When I first broke up with my ex, the first thing I did was call my last ex crying. He cheered me up a lot. I just needed someone who knew me romantically to tell me I was wonderful and it wasn't my fault. Last ex is now dating a friend of mine, they are moving in together in September and every now and then she will say ... You can't have him back. This is really silly talk because we don't want each other back at all. We are both happier now.
And stop snooping! You are bound to find something and jump to the wrong conclusion because you are filling in the blanks with fear and insecurity. I have done that myself.
Re: bad start to weekend... sooverhim: yall are so right...I will not be doing anything of that nature again, jumping to conclusions, usually the wrong ones is a waste of time. i've been overanalyzing this all morning and I have to stop. i told him that i wanted to drop it and not let it ruin our weekend and he agreed. i hope that he doesn't throw it back in my face and partly i do believe i may deserve it. it is hard not to think anything with the way he reacted but i trust him. i talk to my ex occasionally and i have recently but he is married now and i would never invite them to come so far to hang out with me...well i guess i never know...i have hurt my bf by doing this, making me look like i dont' trust him, this isn't somethign he is taking that lightly...i hope he understands i trust him with everything, i don't trust the ex.
when i do talk to my ex it isn't all sweet sounding and call him buddy-maybe that's just hte type of girl she is though. this ex does live in a different state so i believe that saves me from any contact unless we're together.
Re: bad start to weekend... ChristyM: [quote"> but maybe he knows i will take it the wrong way and doesnt' want to even have to go into it with me [/quote">
Bingo! This is verbatim what ex would tell me about his g/f. It got to be the only way we could talk was for me to call him at work b/c his g/f would flip out if she saw my # on his cell phone ... and I live 1,000 miles away! She created problems for herself.
Having a relationship is hard, especially when exes are involved. Your reactions are normal. I'd say if you are talking marriage and buying a house you are the one he wants to be with.
Christy
Re: bad start to weekend... sooverhim: thanks, i know in my heart he is the one...i can't let an ex take away from my concentration on me and him-he did tell me if i was the type of person that had to know every phone call he made and everyone that called him and what they talked about, etc that he couldn't handle that (i dont' know anyone that could!) hopefully nothign else will come of this except hopefully that he'll see that i don't want anything to happen to us...but yes we have spoke of marriage and will be getting a house in december sometime...i would hope he wouldn't be so excited about everything and turn around and want something with the ex...i'm such a worry wart it's not even funny
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