Re:My Story and My Dilemma... Seraph: d2b,
Well, I can see where you might go :o, but I wasn't aware that you did... ;)
I don't see your story anywhere on the board, so I really can't make a solid comparison between our stories. If your ex has said the same things I have, however, it sounds as though the divorce wasn't his idea and he was shocked and devastated by whole thing. :'(
I gather from your response that you now have a boyfriend. How has your ex dealt with this? Have you been honest with him about your relationship, or have you tried to spare his feelings? I think that was the breaking point with me. I mean, it was bad enough that she divorced me and started seeing someone else, but for her to continuously lie to me about it... 
It's kinda hard to regroup from that, you know?
Seraph
Re:My Story and My Dilemma... leem03: Serph, I agree with d2b here. This is a choice only you can make. Can you trust her, can you forgive her, can you move past the hurt she has already caused? These are all questions you have to be able to answer 100% yes to before even considering it. Let's face it, if you have can't trust her again, it will never work. You will forever be doubting everything that she says to you. Don't get me wrong, it will only be natural that you doubt her to start & she should understand that. So she would have to do everything in her power to prove herself to you. That however doesn't mean kissing up or getting down on bended knees to prove it to you either.
Hard decision to make. I would assume that you already know what's right in your heart. My suggestion would be to follow your heart. Whatever way it leads you. You may get burned again if you try, but then again, the time away may be what she needed to realize that you are the one she wants & you could go off into fairy tale land & live Happily Ever After!
Good Luck!!
Re:My Story and My Dilemma... down2basics: No Seraph, I had a bf at one time if you could call him that - he was a friend that was yes, male....So to answer your question - yes - I have been honest with my X about the "relationship". ::)
Honestly, I can't speak for my X. I only know how he reacted to the situations that we've encountered. I do know however, his pride collided with his real objectives and that was a very hard lesson for him to learn. He is only now beginning to come to terms with it. It's been a long hard road, but he and I are trying to at least be good friends for now, if not reconcile later. 8)
FWIW...if I can help you in anyway - believe me - I will! I do understand how you feel. However, you are going to have to make the decision to take the leap of faith and let go of what she's done in the past or move on...the choice is ultimately yours! ;)
d2b
Re:My Story and My Dilemma... down2basics: Hey Seraph - just thought I'd drop by and see how you are doing...haven't heard much from you lately...Is everything alright?
d2b
Re:My Story and My Dilemma... Seraph: d2b,
I'm here - just kinda digesting all that's happened over the past weekend...
We had Thanksgiving together - just the three of us. My son spent the night with my parents so that we could hit the early-morning Christmas sales on Friday. We wound up spending most of the day together Friday. In fact, it was the first time we had been around each other unchaperoned since we separated.
Probably should've kept the chaperone...
Leap of faith? How about walking off the <censored> cliff? We kinda got "closer" than we should have...
Don't get me wrong here - I'm not complaining about the fact we did what we did. Let's face it - celibacy sux (or maybe the problem is that it doesn't
). I'm just worried that I've opened Pandora's box here. I'm afraid that I've given her the impression that I've decided to give us another chance when I most definitely have not . I'm not saying I've completely ruled out the idea, I'm just saying I haven't decided that's really what I want, either.And now this. ::)
I hear the wind rushing by, and can see the ground coming up to meet me...
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