Re:completely blindsided and devastated picadilly: Yes, Avecito, you do deserve better, you deserve more then what he gave you. Never doubt or forget that you deserve to be happy, first & foremost. I have to remind myself that too. :)
Take care of you & post any updates if you feel the need to vent, we're all here for you.
Re:completely blindsided and devastated Safetykc: I went through the same thing. Wife told me she was lwaving after 11 1/2 months of marriage...Then found a letter on her computer she was having an affair with a married co-worker with 3 kids around 6-7 months after we got married, if not sooner...
It has been helll, especially to have happened so fast after tying the knot...why not when we were dating?? Then never would have goten married...sigh...anyway divorce is in less then one week...
Just wanted to send some hugs and tell you my story so you know you are not alone...It has happened to others of us...
Take care...
Safety
Re:completely blindsided and devastated Buggs: Avecito,
I'm glad you posted your note and sad that you had to, no one deserves to be hurt or decieved. I can only imagine how devastating this must be for you at the same time agree with others to take this time in your life to take stock/inventory of who you are - a person just like all of us who deserves nothing but happiness, love and respect. Your replies seem to indicate that you are a strong person and will no doubt make it through this ordeal, know this though, it's okay to feel bad for a while - don't surpress your sadness and anger - just don't let it consume you, you are entilted to be happy - its up to you to decide when you feel you've had enough anger. This quote helped me go through the rough days and made me realize that ultimately, we control how much anger and happiness we want to feel..
Hang in there
" For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Re:completely blindsided and devastated galil: Been there done that as well. dated 9.5 years married for five months before she left. I think she was seeing this kid before we were even married. The only reason she married me was so she coudl have entitelement to my things.
Oh well know that you ar far from alone and things will and do get better :-\
Re:completely blindsided and devastated brynne: Hi,
Your post really touched my heart, I completly understand...my husband starting cheating 1 1/2 years after we married, although it took me 4 more months to figure it all out.
I am so sorry, nothing can take away that kind of pain, it is truely horrible. Crying helped me get thru, so did friends & family. Do not isolate yourself from those who love you - if you need to be alone to cry, that's ok but don't stay alone all day. You need support right now more than ever. We are all here for you at Ojar & I am available to talk if you need to. The pain will lessen, I promise...I didn't believe that either. I found out about the affair on 9/29, filed for divorce 1 week later & we just signed the papers yesterday to make the divorce final. MY X will still not admit to the affair althou I have SO MUCh proof it's undeniable ! You are lucky is he as least being honest w/ you & not hurting you anymore. It's not fair to lie to those we love.
I wish you peace & that you hurt will easy as time goes by.
Stay strong, I know it is so hard,
Hope
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