Revenge Therapy ! brynne: hey everyone,
Just to recap my story: My spouse is cheating on me w/ a 19 year old (he's 30) & we just signed the final papers this week.
As part of my "therapy" I went to her house last night to talk to her parents (she lives at home w/ mom & dad). They had found out just 2 weeks ago what their daughter was up involved in when I served her w/ a notice for her deposition.
So I went over there last night to tell them to truth, show them my evidence & let them know what a liar my H is, his age - 30 & also that his affair w/ their daughter caused our divorce ! It felt good to get that off my chest & to let concerned parents know the truth. I was very polite & told them I felt obligated to make the aware of the truth & I would answer any questions they had. They knew something was up b/c of the deposition notice but they did not know how long the relationship was going on (at least 4 months). And apparently they had no idea they are still seeing each other.
It was good for me to tell them the truth & warn them that their daughter was with a cheating liar that is manipulative & feeding their daughter with lies ! I told them she is probably more of the victim in this situation b/c of his age & she is very impressionable at the age of 19. They thanked me for coming over & being honest.
My H had even followed me over there, but didn't dare come in - her parents have never met him.
To add to the drama, she is black & my H is white, I have no prolbem w/ inter-racial relationships, but I know his mom does & her parents might also.
Just thought I'd stir things up a little !!
Hope
Re:Revenge Therapy ! picadilly: haha, your evil Hope... but I so admire that. :o
I hope this helps your peace of mind and that it's a good idea to warn her parents as she is so young & impressionable.
Take it easy & stay strong.
Re:Revenge Therapy ! galil: I would have done that with my EXs new 17 year old BF but sadly his parents were her best friends. So I am sure they were and are happy as hell that she is with him.
remember he is a loser and in trouble with the law all the time. So I am sure in there mind she is going to be the one that saves him and makes him grow up :(
Good for you though. In time however I dont think it will have the effect you hoped. It willl still hurt and the best thing for healing is get the divorce final and move on without him.
Re:Revenge Therapy ! brynne: Thanks for your funny responses !
I really did not do it to be mean, just to kinda tick him off. I was calm & collected & didn't call names or come across as crazy. Just wanted him to look bad in front of her parents ! Like being married & dating someone 11 years younger doesn't already make him look like the fool he is ??
And he's a school teacher, which totally dis-credits his character. I mean aren't teachers supposed to be role models & people children look up to & admire ?...yeah right. She's practically a child herself.
Anyway, I have no regrets...you're right it probably won't end their relationship but I don't really care.
I'm sure I did it out of hurt & spite, but nothing I could ever do to him could hurt me or cause as much pain as he's inflicted on me.
Hope
