Re:How to approach someone bryce: [quote author=SunnyFlower link=board=6;threadid=1579;start=0#msg11569 date=1070028171">
I agree with Buggs on that one, Bryce!
Speaking from a female point of view, here....if *I* were that stock girl and someone approached me in a nice way, I would feel flattered. I always think honesty is the best bet in my opinion. :)
"Hey...I've seen you a few times here, now, and was wondering if maybe you'd like to go out for a cup of coffee with me sometime?"
Just relax.....I think people can "pick up" on things like that and she'll know you are not some wierd psycho stalker if you just be yourself! ;)
Good luck!
Oh, and remember...there is a first time for everything!! How will you ever know if it could have worked out with her or not if you don't take a chance every now and then?? :P
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Thank you for a female point of view.... :)
Funny, the coffee line was always my "pick-up line" in college...usually worked, actually...(on the rare occassions that I was brave enough to use it...) Funny however, I only drink tea...Brit style...
Yeah, like *I* look to _her_ speech and body language for ques(sp?)...problem is that I am a very nervous person sometimes, and that bothers people, they think that I must be hiding something, when it's just mild social anxiety....
Well, this girl is always very busy and distracted by work, so reading her is hard...but I did talk to her again the other night, longer this time...but I may have messed up - I was getting a video rental card and mentioned that I was new here, and I let slip that I was divorced...I think this word makes you automatically cursed or something...like maybe the other person is thinking "So, if he is divorced, is it because his wife was a jerk, or *he* is a jerk? Is there something *wrong* with him???" But maybe I am obsessing too much...
Well, I'll tell you how it goes...or doesn't go...
- bryce
Re:How to approach someone bryce: [quote author=finney5 link=board=6;threadid=1579;start=0#msg11623 date=1070138821">
Hey Bryce, it sounds like you've already done the hardest thing, and that's initiating the first contact (just saying 'hi'). That's somewhat of a foundation to move onto Sunnyflower's suggestion. So it's not too out of the blue or random (or stalkerish). What's the worst that could happen?
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Worst that could happen? Oh, I dunno...just TOTAL UTTER *REJECTION*!!! HAVING MY HEART RIPPED OUT AND DROPPED KICKED ACROSS THE ROOM!!!! (Which I *should* be immune to by now...)
OH, THE DISPAIR!!! THE INDIGNITY!!! ;)
(Actually, it does kind of scare me...and could I mess things up by asking her out *too* soon???)
"First Contact"...as an ex-astronomy major and ex-major Trekkie, that phrase always reminds me of contacting aliens, like in Star Trek or something...I think that I could handle the aliens better than the women...seriously...
- bryce
Re:How to approach someone bryce: [quote author=bryce link=board=6;threadid=1579;start=0#msg11836 date=1070332018">
Well, this girl is always very busy and distracted by work, so reading her is hard...but I did talk to her again the other night, longer this time...but I may have messed up - I was getting a video rental card and mentioned that I was new here, and I let slip that I was divorced...I think this word makes you automatically cursed or something...like maybe the other person is thinking "So, if he is divorced, is it because his wife was a jerk, or *he* is a jerk? Is there something *wrong* with him???" But maybe I am obsessing too much...
Well, I'll tell you how it goes...or doesn't go...
- bryce
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Hummm....you know, single, never married (obsessive) people are probably thinking that the *other* person is thinking "So why are they single? Is something *wrong* with them that nobody is with them???"!!!!! HA!!!!! :)
- bryce
Re:How to approach someone SunnyFlower: LOL!!
That's the way to look at it, Bryce!! ;)
And, you are welcome for the "female" point of view! It usually doesn't take a really clever pick up line or some catchy phrase to get your point across...she will probably be just as nervous as you are! (Umm....does that help?? LOL!!)
Re:How to approach someone JimB: Whenever I get kind of freaked out by the possibility of taking some kind of action, I try to ask myself what's the worst that could happen. In this case, she could say no. I hate to tell you this, my friend, but the only way to realize that rejection won't kill you is to get rejected a few times.
What's the worst that could happen? She could reject you. Anything else she could do to you (for example, in a worst case scenario, try to humiliate you) would just demonstrate that she's not worth your time - too many issues.
Say she rejects you. If you're like me, you'll mope for a couple of days, then you'll be right back out scouting cute women again.
So go for it. Use your instincts, be yourself, and don't be nervous. After all, if she disses you, it's her loss.
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