Re:why is life so unfair? wmessin: Givenup....
I'm very sorry to hear about your terrible troubles. I will tell you one thing that someone has told me that made me feel a lot better about getting dealt a serious blow (and in your case several at that).
God would only allow that much trouble in one person's life such as yours if you are a very VERY strong and good person. He would not attempt to levy such tragedies on someone incapable of dealing with it. You must be very special if God has that much faith in you to pull through so much. That tells me that he's going to build you up into one of the most incredible people on this earth.
I truly believe that. Bad things sometimes do happen to really great people....and you know what? The usual outcome is that those people tend to come out of it even BETTER and hopefully I will be proven correct in your situation. I wish you lots of good fortune for your future and really hope that God gives you happiness and goodness back in your life really soon.
take care,
Wayne
Re:why is life so unfair? brokenman: Givenup, I hope things are better since it is 6 months down the road
And Metis,
I don't know if it will help or not, but my father told me something a long time ago (and often) that I didn't believe for a long time. Now that I understand it I appreciate his wisdom on the matter.
"Life is not fair."
He could have elaborated more on it the first time he said it to me, but eventually he got around to explaining. You see, there is no fairness in life. That is to say, things happen. Considering these things a curse or a blessing is human but we only fool ourselves. For the most part, we are where we are today because of choices. Sure, sometimes those choices weren't ours, but those of a cheating spouse or backstabbing friend, but we still had choices in how we interacted with those people (like marrying them or being their friend). We are where we are, plain and simple. If we don't like it, we have to change it. Life is not going to "get fair" all of a sudden.
Don't put too much weight into how well things are going for people around you, even your sister. I doubt things are as rosy as you paint unless you live with them and see the gory insides of her life. Don't get me wrong, I don't wish ill on her. People allow guests into the foyer and livingroom and seldom into the dank, dark basement where they do the laundry.
Re:why is life so unfair? Safetykc: Very good points BM, My family told me the same thing and it is true...life isn't fair...you have to make it the best you can and be true to yourself...
In other words...life is like a box of chocolates... ::)
Run Forrest RUN... ;D
Re: why is life so unfair? Jelome: Life is never fair. Correlation never seems to applied in life. Positive attitudes does not always resulted in positive effect. No matter how you tried in life, you always failed. The amount of love you gave does not returned back to you in full. Life is always unfair.
I had a sister also. Her life is like the butterlifes, good as in paradise. No problem in life, and everywhere she goes, she would have someone to catch her fall.
Me? I don't have the luxury. I was caught in the season of depression when my parents divorce and my relatives hated me. They hated me from the moment i am born. I am not sure why, they lavished my sister with gifts in her birthday and disappointed me during my birthday. Not a cake nor a birthday gift was there.
I hated this life. Why she had thousands of boyfriends and I can't even find one to like me? I hated my life.
I am lonely...nobody loves me... nobody cares...
This sounds familliar right?
Get up! Be strong! Don't be a baby. Nobody gonna loves you unless you first pick up yourself. Nobody sees you until you stand up for yourself. This is the lesson that I learned and hope you will learned it also/
Re: why is life so unfair? Percy123: Jelome,
That post was from 2003. Be sure to check the date before you reply to a post. It brings it current again and the person looking for the advice or support is long since moved past that time......
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