From Bad to Worse... barelybreathing: My situation is justing getting worse...
My Dad just insisted calling him and "demanding" he come over and pick up his child and spend time with her." Told him to suck it up and be a man.
The X says, "you don't understand Dad, there are some issues."
My dad says, "what issues? I am ashamed of you and my daughter. You two need to resolve this for her sake."
I am so embarrassed, I want to curl up and die....
My dad is ashamed of me too?
I just want to die.
Re:From Bad to Worse... PiscesGoddess: Honey, there are always going to be people that dont like what we do, that are not happy with our decisions.. and I know disappointing our parents.. is a rotten awful painful feeling. But as with everything else, it comes with being a grown up. YOU absolutely have to do what you FEEL deep down is right for you and your daughter. This loser (your ex) is the one that caused all this..let him deal with the backlash. You have to hold your head up high.. and say,, to all those not agreeing with you, Thank you for your opinion, I love you, but I have to do what is best for me and my baby. No one has to walk in your shoes everyday but you.. And I know how PAINFUL it is.. I honestly do.. but like I said before .. remember how strong you are... You are an amazing woman BB.. dont let anyone let you think otherwise. ..
HUGS
Pisces :)
Re:From Bad to Worse... Safetykc: EXACTLY!!!
Good words Goddess. BB, i know how important your Dad's opinion is. But he is not you. Only you can decide what is best for you and your daughter. He can feel however he wants, but he isn't walking a mile in your shoes right now and I bet your feet are aching from doing it...Plus he would look kinda funny in those new shoes you got. ;)
Hang in there...You are strong...Roar BB, roar...It is just your Dad's opinion cause he doesn't like anyone hurting his little girl and feels helpless in this situation because your STBX is a slimeball. So he is lashing out at both of you. He doesn't really mean it and you will know that in time...
Big Hugs sweetie, we are here for you...
Safety
Re:From Bad to Worse... picadilly: Oh BB. I don't think your dad is ashamed of you. I think he said that to your stbx to push him to some action.
Parents wan tthe best of thier kids... but they can never leave well enough alone. I know. my mom keeps telling me to "move on, get better, forget about her, if she doesn't want to be with you then why am I in so much pain for someone that doesn't care. Stop being this way & to get my act together." It's hard, I know she wants whats best for me & doesn't want me to be in pain but she doesn't understand that I need time to heal, my emotions are not something that can be turned off & on at a flick of the switch. My mom married my dad when she was 19 & they are still together. I don't think she's ever been with anyone else except my dad. She has never felt break up pain. I envy her & my dad that.
Be strong & remember that your parents want whats best for you. They see your in pain & will do stupid things to fix that. You'll pull through. HUGS your way.
Re:From Bad to Worse... barelybreathing: He came and got her. I was at the park, well on my way when he pulled up behind me.
My daughter was not happy with him. Did not want him to hold her at all or push her in the swing. I had to persuade her to go with him only after he assured that I was coming too to go get something to eat. She refused to ride in his car. Did not want him to ride in our car. Would not allow him to carry her into the restaurant.
I had to talk her into going with him. Spending the day with him. Had to reassure her over and over that I would be at home "waiting" for her. She asked me three times if I would wait for her. She even tried to convince him to come over to "her" house. I had to leave the restaurant, I was crushed by her insecurites to go with him. I could hear her calling for me and crying as I walked out.
I never cried so hard in my life. Just running to my car.
I know she will settle down while with him, at least I hope she will. But talk about pain. She was not happy with him from the other night. And she knows that he can't be counted on. She was looking to me for security and assurance. She was actually afraid to go with him....
I tired to text message him to check on her and I got no response. He is suppose to bring her back around eight.....
I can't concentrate on anything else but the clock.....
BB
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