Re:From Bad to Worse... picadilly: good girl, BB, you can tough it out. Unfortunately his family decides that now is a good time to get to know your daughter again. Maybe they though a bit of time was needed for you to heal, I don't know. I'm glad you survived that week from hell, next week is a new week. There will always be bad weeks down the road, specially since you have to deal with your ex all the time. Just try not to let him get to you too much.
Best of luck & happy thoughts your way.
Re:From Bad to Worse... DaisyGarden: [quote author=barelybreathing link=board=20;threadid=1590;start=0#msg11686 date=1070220344">
She was very clingy with him. Which made me tear up some more. Then he left....to disappear into the dark abyss of his now dark and weird world.
He calls the next morning, to check on my hangover status and to tell me how beautiful I looked. Announces that his family "realizes" how much they missed out on not being around my child and to expect some phone calls from them. F___k em, really. Excuse my frankness, they have not contacted her for over a year. I verbally extended invitations for them to see her anytime in the beginning of this mess and not one of them have bothered to call. My daughter is smart like her mommy and she is not going to have tolerance for that either. Look at the way she reacted to her father's visit...and she is only three.
It's all bizarre behavior to me and I am not accustomed to it but I am dealing with it. Sometimes productively and sometimes not so productively.
This WAS a tough week and I am so very glad it is over.....
BB
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My 3 yr. old is extremly clingly when she knows her daddy is leaving again. It's very difficult to watch. And to hear my s2bx say "Daddy's going to work now", makes me want to physically hurt him! :-X When I've asked s2bx "How can she understand this, when I don't, he tells me that I don't want to understand it! ???
My s2bx's family also hasn't made any contact with my daughter, and they live 1/2 hour away from us. S2bx's brother (the only family of his that i speak to), told me that they asked about me/my daughter during Thanksgiving. I think maybe they're curious, but not interested in getting in the middle of anything. They all just make me sad!
Re:From Bad to Worse... barelybreathing: Isn't it a trip Daisy?
I mean, listen....I would NOT have married him if he was not family oriented and normal. It's like I feel like either those years were all fake with him or I am truly in some weird sci-fi movie in which my X has been taken over by aliens or something.
His family is "off" but they are not by any means anti-family. They all have kids and are married happily. My X was a loving father when she was born and was a loving father up until he took his latest job. Then things just simply changed. He disengaged himself.
And he uses that whole "Daddy's gotta go to work" verbage too. I use to in the beginning back him up but then I realized I was NOT doing my daughter any favors by trying to cover up his whereabouts. So now when she asks if he is at work, I simply tell her, "no honey, he is at his house."
My disappointment in my X runs very deep. He truly flaked out and that was not the understanding we had when we decided to have children.
Guilt can do amazing things to people, I tell ya.
BB
Re:From Bad to Worse... DaisyGarden: [quote author=barelybreathing link=board=20;threadid=1590;start=0#msg11698 date=1070230198">
Isn't it a trip Daisy?
I mean, listen....I would NOT have married him if he was not family oriented and normal. It's like I feel like either those years were all fake with him or I am truly in some weird sci-fi movie in which my X has been taken over by aliens or something.
His family is "off" but they are not by any means anti-family. They all have kids and are married happily. My X was a loving father when she was born and was a loving father up until he took his latest job. Then things just simply changed. He disengaged himself.
And he uses that whole "Daddy's gotta go to work" verbage too. I use to in the beginning back him up but then I realized I was NOT doing my daughter any favors by trying to cover up his whereabouts. So now when she asks if he is at work, I simply tell her, "no honey, he is at his house."
My disappointment in my X runs very deep. He truly flaked out and that was not the understanding we had when we decided to have children.
Guilt can do amazing things to people, I tell ya.
BB
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It's crazy!
My s2bx is one of 10 kids! He is the second oldest. I watched him as a brother and as a second FATHER to those kids, and yet he abandons his own! ??? Aliens....my daughter needs her father back!
My sister told me that it's not my responsibility to keep s2bx alive in daughter's memory, let HIM do that. Let him build his own relationship with her. :-\ When my s2bx comes to town, he's loving father by day (well, on some of the visits), and trying to pick up anything in a skirt by night. Right in the same small town! I want to shake him, and ask "who are you?" He doesn't realize he disrespects his daughter by doing that! :-[ I will never understand him. :-\
